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How to deal with being unable to come out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by goma, Dec 16, 2016.

  1. goma

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    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Hi, all. I'll try to be as succinct as possible. I've only recently come to the revelation that I am bisexual. It took me a long time to realize this about myself due to my conservative upbringing and also conservative environment ("I can't possibly be gay, right?"). But accepting the feelings I've always known I had for girls, I feel much more comfortable with myself. Thoughts of "What if I had a girlfriend?" make me smile and daydream. However, I currently find that it's impossible for me to come out, lest I harm or completely lose my relationships with my conservative Christian family. They already have a hard time swallowing that I'm athiest; finding out that I'm attracted to men and women would slay them.

    I feel uncomfortable that I can't admit to my parents who I really am. I'd like to have the freedom of pursuing a relationship with a woman if I wanted, without worrying about losing my family. But I fear I can't have both, and it's really distressing.

    What do you do? How do you cope with having to live with a secret? Do I just wait until my parents die before I come out of the closet? (lol)