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Tainted Shards of Life

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by crimsonarcher, Jun 29, 2007.

  1. crimsonarcher

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    In my childhood......
    i was raped......
    ..by my older male cousin...
    i was wondering........
    does rape and sexual abuse contribute to homosexuality?
    cause that's what i thought for a while...
    ............he acts as if he hasn't done anything.......
     
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    I was never raped, and I was never sexually abused. I'm gay, I think it has more to do with how you were raised, but sometimes that happening to a person makes things worse on your behalf mentally and physically.
     
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    i'm okay now..it's just..how could i let it happen?
    It's just something i regret...
     
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    At a young age there are some things that we can't stop from happening it just happens to us. It's good that you're okay now. :slight_smile:
     
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    yeah....thanks.
     
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    I was molested by my female babysitter when i was 4. i always wonder if it's why i'm gay... i went through a bunch of therapy to get over it. i still am not. i didn't know what was happening. i was too young. but i still want revenge. she moved out of our nieghborhood but i get this feeling of intense anger everytime i ride by her house... it's hard to get psat things like these... but there is nothing we can do.
     
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    I don't think that one situation is the reason why you're gay, I'm not a doctor, but I do think that as you grow older you start to think that now that you're bigger you could kick this person's ass for doing what they did to you. Which is why you get angry every time pass by their house, memories usually increase the anger, when we're young we're not so strong to stop what happens to us, we don't even know what's happening until we realize it.
     
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    i'm sorry.
    and you're right.
    My couisn used to be my neighbor too.
    I feel disgust everytime i see his house....
     
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    You are not gay because you were molested. You are not gay because you were raised in a certain way. Studies are showing that it happens in the womb. My son was raised in a perfectly normal household and was never molested. Alot of people are molested who are NOT gay.
     
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    Yeah I was thinking about the whole raised thing, I lived a totally normal life and I still ended up being gay. :tantrum:
     
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    i tmakes ense..i just thought it may have left some effct on me...
     
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    thnk you all..for making me feel better..
     
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    I'm sure it left some effect on you. How can it not? It just didn't make you gay.
     
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    thanx:icon_redf