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My thread is lost

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by yongsua, Feb 15, 2017.

  1. yongsua

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    Hi, I just posted a new thread here. Why did it disappear? I couldn't find it, the thread title is "Very lonely but hard to come out of closet'.

    ---------- Post added 15th Feb 2017 at 11:53 PM ----------

    Can I just briefly repost? I would like to write in point form as I am running out of time.

    - Pardon for my bad English.

    - I am from Malaysia.

    - I am 100% sure that I'm gay because I have discovered that I am only physically and emotionally attracted to men.

    - I believe you do understand that I am living in Asia where the people here are not as open minded and tolerating as Westerners when it comes to accepting the LGBT community.

    - The worst thing is I am mostly attracted to straight guys, especially those nice looking or handsome guys who ooze their masculinity. I always have fantasy that I could have cuddled with them and laid on their shoulders. It makes me feel secure and I love it a lot.

    - I do admit I am physically attracted to guys but not really sexually attracted to them. I used to watch non-sexual gay porn but I have been trying hard to quit watching it and masturbating because my mind, health, and lifestyle have been deteriorated.

    - I also admit that I am picky on which guys I would like to be together with, but that's because there are guys who have something that is attractive or unique which I don't have and would like to have it with me. I really hope that I can have bromance or platonic relationship with straight guys on whom I am interested.

    - I have also tried gay apps but I dare not upload my true picture on those apps, not even on social media because I am afraid that someone who could recognized me will know my true sexuality and I am also a shy introvert ( I know shyness and introversion two different things, but I have both). It makes my path to come out closet even more challenging.

    - I am usually interested to guys who are masculine from outside but soft or gentle from inside. That doesn't mean that I am girlish or sissy, I have learned some self-defense and fighting techniques from Jeet Kune Do. So, there are times I could be an intense from outside. Honestly, I am usually a "soft type" of person from outside, but deep inside I am always intense, which is totally opposite of the type of guys to whom I attracted.

    - I hope someone else here would give me some advice on my problems. Thanks and Regards. Have a nice day.
     
  2. Gravity

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    Hi there! Your thread should be visible now - it was automatically put in the moderation view since it was a post containing lots of text from a new member. This is a precaution against spam, advertising, and other things. There was nothing wrong with your post. :slight_smile:

    I wanted to ask, though - what do you mean by "running out of time"? If you are in need of more immediate support or you feel like you are in danger, let us know and we can respond to your situation here.

    Take care!