well, we probably all know what gaydar means :3 what I want to know, is out of 100, how good (roughly) is the average gaydar in college? I know, silly question :icon_redf but I know I won't be able to actually tell anyone due to my shyness, so I'm wondering if anyone will know via their "gaydar" :lol: anyway, sorry if it's silly, but it is a serious question. honest! I hope I'll find out from here or from a PM to my friend, but idk. just to make sure :lol:
I think that it's pretty obvious at that stage, especially because college campuses tend to lean to the liberal side of the sociopolitical spectrum. But I don't think that people who aren't looking for it will necessarily find it, unless it's blatantly obvious.
Yeah at that level, people are being themselves anyway so you can sort of tell without guessing. Idk though my gaydar only works on lesbians so I might be wrong hah.
That's not really an answerable question. Some people can tell very well, some can't. There are a lot of factors that can play into how attuned people are in recognizing sexual orientation based on outward appearance/behaviour. It can depend on the history of the person, their exposure to the gay community, geographical location, even personality type. I hate to say it, but if you really want to meet some other gay people, you will probably need to at least be some what open about it. You can't expect some gay guy to just walk by and say "Oh hey! You're gay! Let's be friends!". That said, you only need to be as open as you feel comfortable about it.
There's always people who are perceptive and people who aren't. I definitely fall into the 'not' category, but people are often pretty open about who they are. If you can manage it most of the gay people I know meet each other through discussion groups and clubs, so you might try joining something to see if you can manage the courage to be more open about it. Also people will often surprise you with how perceptive they really are, I'm not out at all, but I'm pretty sure a significant number of my friends either know or could make a very educated guess. In the UK college is at 16, right? It's a bit of an age difference and I'm not sure if there's an atmosphere difference from American college, but either way you probably want to just explore. See if you can make yourself get over some of the shyness, it's really hard to do, but in the long run it feels a lot better to be a more confident in who you are (still working on that one).
I know that. I was just wondering if anyone there would guess. I know I'm too shy, and I don't expect anyone to just come up to me. I just wanted to know if it would be easier to tell once I go to college.
Personally, I don't have a gaydar. If you want people to know without telling them, maybe you could wear a rainbow wristband or something?
it's not about that, I'm really shy, so I want to know if it'll be easier for people to guess than in secondary school X( sometimes I just hate how shy I can be :icon_sad:
Depends on the person with the gaydar. I know some people (all who live alongside a particular Egyptian river) who claim that every attractive guy is gay. Lex
Really? That is not how I experienced it. People were as much closed books to me in college as they were in highschool. Probably even more, as you get to socialise with them less, with all people taking different kinds of classes at different times. If anything, I had more of a sincere relationship with most of my class in highschool. I discovered quite a few of my collegemates were gay, but only after I left. Definitely not from how they acted while I was there. Of course, Belgium is a small country, so it's probably very different from larger countries where going to college effectively means building up a new life elsewhere...
i was well in denial in college so i didnt seem gay, but my gaydar has always been spot on .... and right now its going nuts about all the guys above ^ lol