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same-sex attraction after masturbation for the first time?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by rjohn02, Apr 15, 2009.

  1. rjohn02

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    hey i have a question for the gay guys. Did any of you really start to be attracted to guys after masturbating (with a dildo or whatever else) for the first time? did it kind of trigger something in you? cheers.
     
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    my first masturbation WAS to pictures of men xD

    well, at first it does not take anything to do (heh, wow, this topic and me =/= confortable) but when i started to need "something something" to do "something something" it was men not women.
     
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    I was already attracted to guys before I started masturbating.. For quiet some time actually.
     
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    I don't know who was the first guy who I was attracted too... lemme think... well I was never attracted to girls (closest girl would probably be Lindsay Lohan; but not on a attraction scale; but ideal beauty)

    I actually don't know what I was thinking when I was masturbating, at the time I was worried if I can't masturbate (strange; but I was mid 14 at the time; thinking why can't I do this... I don't know why it took me so long). Definitely wasn't a girl though in my head, it was more of a dream guy.... I always felt attracted to guys, like I remember getting butterflies in my stomach when I was really young when I saw a good looking guy. I would act all giggly.... but that was so long ago. (I never used the butterfly statement but that's the closest thing I could describe).

    Bit uncomfortable question lol
     
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    same, attraction came first
     
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    i actually jacked off to str8 porn first, its what my friends watched and well to be honest i just focused on the guys... and i always asked them to play the scene where there were multiple guys and one girl..... but i always knew i was attracted to guys and it was always kinda sexy sitting there jacking off with my friends even though nothing else happened...
     
  7. bob4carl09

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    Other way round for me. I remember when I was a kid, musta been about 12, and in the back of one of the Sunday newspapers was this adult section, and it was a 2 page spread with ads for toy catalogues, magazines and stuff. All incredibally tame, but enough to get me going :icon_redf

    So I'd, y'know, :***: off looking at the pictures of the girls. And after a while, I started looking at the few pictures of the guys as well, not really thinking anything of it.

    Like a year later we got the internet, and the computer was in this little box room with no windows, and my mom had no intrest in computers then, so I spent a lot of time online, y'know, :***: off. I remember starting off with straight porn. Then I remember checking out the guys loads. Not sure when I made the change exactly, but by 16 when I went away travelling it was probably 75% gay, 25% straight. And then within a year I had my first crush on a guy and I knew, me likes the boys :slight_smile:
     
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    well when it came to porn,i would always skip to the part where the big hung guy would orgasm,that was all the excitement i needed to masterbate too, never really cared for the stories.
     
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    It was mainly imagination for me, and it wasn't so much particular (hot) people as scenarios. You know, finding somebody and having a sudden torrid love affair in the backyard or something. The "actors" (and "actresses") weren't all that important.

    Lex
     
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    interesting question... i always liked guys. i dont think i ever even thought about a woman in a sexual way...
     
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    Yes.
     
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    In a lot of cases, sexual attraction (to whichever gender) kicks in at around the same time the person starts to masturbate - hormones kick in and sexual feelings start.