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Conversation with my grandmother

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Starshine16, Apr 15, 2009.

  1. Starshine16

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    Okay so I just got home from my night class and my grandmother had picked me up at school.Somehow we got on the subject of secrets.I had mentioned on Facebook that I was wondering who was really good at keeping secrets.My grandmother wanted to know what this secret was about.

    So here's how the conversation went.

    Her: So what's the secret?
    Me: You have to wait until I am ready to tell you
    Her: Is it a good secret
    Me: I think it is
    Her: Will I think it's a good secret?
    Me: I don't know
    Her: Does your mom know?
    Me: No
    Her: Will she think it's a good secret?
    Me: I don't know
    Her: Does anyone else know about the secret?
    Me: Yes
    Her: Does your mom know you have a secret?
    Me: Nope
    Her: The only person I could think of would be Katie (My oldest friend)
    Me: Nope,I haven't talked to her in awhile (Total lie.She was the first one I came out to)
    Her: Do any of your online friends know?
    Me: Yes...You are going to go bug them on Facebook aren't you?
    Her: No I won't.
    Me: You are going to bug me about it this weekend aren't you? (She's staying with my family over the weekend)
    Her: Yeah I will.

    Basically it all boils down to the fact that I am really ready to come out to her.I know she'll have a rough time with it being Catholic,but I know she loves me.I will most likely be doing it this weekend.
     
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    Good luck! I hope it goes really well for you.

    If it helps you to feel less nervous....try to focus on that, because that's the most important thing here. She loves you, and your sexual identity does not change anything about you. You are still the same person.
     
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    I kind of had a little exchange with my mother like this before I told her. I honestly don't know what else she could have thought it was...

    Anyways, GOOD LUCK! I hope all goes well! She sounds like she does love you, so I'm not too worried for you. I'll still be thinking about it though! :thumbsup:
     
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    Good luck no worries.
     
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    i think its great a grandmother beeing all facebooky lol, its just a weird concept to me of elder generation beeing good with tech lol

    hope it really goes well for you :grin:
     
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    She sounds like a pretty cool grandma... :slight_smile:

    Good luck with telling her, make sure to tell us all how it goes
     
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    Good luck! Like Asteroid said, hold onto the fact that you know she loves you, that can give a lot of comfort in a situation that can be pretty damn scary.
     
  9. Starshine16

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    Oh believe me,she is not good with anything technical.She has called me several times to help her with her Facebook stuff.
     
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    well done. im congratulating you now because i know you can do it. i hardly know you but you will, and you will love yourself for it. and your nan will love you too.
    whole lotta love going on here. and a whole lotta love to come
     
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    good luck. i am sure she will take it well. let us know how it goes
     
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    Keep us posted! Good luck!