How to Tell People You're Gay Without Really Saying It

Good morning there my friend, so I am in the middle of therapy for first time in my liege and I am in my mid 50's still married to my wife of 29 years with three daughters 21-26 and here I am my wife discovered I was
Sleeping with guys recently . So I face many dilemmas I need to address the infidelity and my sexuality at the same time . I have a good handle of why the infidelity started but I have struggled quite a bit about why guys when I never felt I was gay nor have I emotionally or romantically desired a guy along the way. Through lots of hard with with my therapist and plenty of reading I do know one thing I am not straight that I can felt . So in my case I started with my wife and she now knows that part of course and I have a few friends who have found out we are dealing with marital problems and I just simply told them why which has been liberating to me . I think you seem comfortable that you are gay and you have somewhat accepted it . I for the first time accept me as bisexual simply because I am still very attracted to my wife and woman but also to guys . That being said I find it way better when I accept it and candidly do not care what others think period . Start slow and actually tell
Someone directly and it will happen organically in many ways . Good luck you seem smart and like a good guy

 

You could start by wearing a pride/rainbow wristband, badge, t-shirt etc. This is a way of making people aware that you are (at the very least) an ally of the LGBT community, but it often leads people to question if you are more than an ally. If you do an internet search for "pride clothing" it should return some results. If you go down this route and people ask about it, will you be prepared to tell them that you are gay?

Is there a LGBT group at your school? If so you could register an interest and maybe talk to one of the members or co-ordinators first and go from there.

What do you think?

 

THIS. This is my plan. I'm very shy and socially awkward so this is what i'm gonna do. After i get my license, get a second job, and move out i will buy a pride necklace of some sort and wear it. That way it doesn't always have to be me bringing it up, you know? And it might be helpful for others around me who could be in the closet - a visible symbol that at the very least i'm supportive of the LGBT community. I'm hoping that wearing a pride jewelry piece like that openly can be a sort of conversation starter cause honestly, unless somebody asks about my dating life, i'd have no idea how to start that conversation casually. But like Patrick said you've gotta be mentally prepared for it first...prepared to answer "Yeah, I'm gay." to everyone who asks and take whatever response they have. Me? It might be a bit before i have that kinda confidence. Who knows, maybe just moving out will help a lot. If i live that long.

 

I'm in just the same situation as you. I rather wan't people to "find out" or just realize that i'm gay without having to say it. It seems very unnatural for me to talk about something like that, since i'm quite a private person.

The wearing of pride-clothes is probably effective, but as you say, it's maybe not everyones style. And certainly not mine either.

You can't imagine how much i have thought about ways to come out "casually" or without having to be explicit. But so far I haven't thought out something really clever. I think the problem is that even when people have a suspicion about you, or even if they are quite sure that you're gay, they still don't ask because it might seem rude.

 

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