So I am pretty sure that I'm straight, or so I thought until recently. I'm attracted to men but I do notice when a girl is pretty (I think that's pretty "normal" for straight people though??). I don't actively go out and see if I see attractive girls walk by but when they do I'm indifferent about it, like I see that they're pretty but don't think anything of it. Anyways, you get the point. I have kissed girls before, in total on 3 separate occasions, each time I was drunk and it was with friends. It wasn't because there was sexual tension etc. we just wanted to see what kissing was like. I'm 17 and at parties (if I make out with someone) I make out with guys and I'm pretty sure I'm attracted to guys but recently people (some friends and my sister but all in separate situations) said that they think I'm bi and idk. I'm just not sure, I mean personally I think I'm straight but so many people have said otherwise that it's confusing me? I've only ever had crushes guys so that makes me more confident that I'm into guys but it totally throws me off when I'm confronted with being bi. It sucks and it's super annoying, the other day in class a friend mentioned that they think I'm bi and I dont know I got this weird and uncomfortable sensation because I have thought of it before but Im Just really unsure... The most annoying thing is that I'm never like oh yeah they're right I'm definitely bi but because soooo many people have suggested it now im Just not sure and not knowing makes me kindof uncomfortable... I don't even know if that makes any sense but if anyone has any advice I would be REALLY greatful.
Only you can know for sure, so I'd ignore your friends and family tbh. Do you know any reason as to why they might be saying you're bi? Like you said, kissing the same gender is not indicative of same-sex attraction, so if it's just because of that then definitely ignore them.
You sound straight to me. Personally, I think everyone is occasionally attracted to at least one member of the opposite sex (it might just be a heat of the moment thing). That being said, kissing girls doesn't make you bi - if you don't feel anything for them sexually or emotionally (especially since you were drunk), you're probably straight...maybe kinsey 0.1?
Acknowledging somebody's attractiveness is very different from being attracted to them. The former involves more reasoning and personal knowledge, whereas the latter involves fundamental emotions. Your lack of those fundamental emotions indicates that you're straight, from what I can tell. As IceCream said, you'd probably be better off ignoring your family and friends for now. It's easy for people to assume things if they don't see the full picture, including your emotions. So unless you ever realise that you are attracted to a girl and that you want to date her, you shouldn't need to worry about your sexuality.
You are the only one who knows what you really are. If you think you're straight, then chances are you're probably straight. They probably just think you are bi, because you kissed girls at parties. If you do happen to be bi, don't let other people pressure you to come out. Coming out is a long process and if your friends are right, don't stress too much. You also might be bi-curious. Which, is totally normal, and many people question their sexuality in their teenage years. Sexuality is a super fluid spectrum, and you can be identify as straight and be curious about girls too. Don't feel the need to label yourself, and focus on what you feel, not what other people think you are.
Try to listen to yourself, and one thing that I did when I wasn't sure I was bi was to imagine how I would feel in a romantic situation with a girl. When I had realized that that thought made me pretty damn happy, that was about when I figured I was bi. Everyone is different, though. And your family and friends don't know you as well as you do. So if you disagree with them, that's fine! Good luck!
Actually, I'm not. So Let's not say that "everyone" is. But for the OP, you're probably just straight. There's a difference between kissing girls and actually being bisexual. Some people have more rigid sexualities, but others are more open-minded.
As others said, only you know. You sound straight to me, but my wife is bisexual and often people say she is a lesbian. Who knows why people want to pigeonhole other people. Weird, eh? As a reference point, when my wife, Mary, sees a cute girl Mary gets horny. Mary starts daydreaming about stripping the girl and giving her oral sex for hours. Mary is bisexual, no doubt about that. Be well
This is a little different from what we usually hear on EC. It seems like usually a woman comes out as Lesbian or Bisexual and then has her family trying to tell her that she isn't or its a phase or some such. I think your friends and sister may want to sound sophisticated by slapping a label on someone else. I don't know. But it really comes down to attraction. Thinking someone of the same gender is pretty is not the same as wanting a romantic or sexual relationship with them. Kissing or fooling around doesn't either but sometimes a curiosity to do this MIGHT indicate that there is a repression of one's sexuality. But it might not. Attraction is the better indicator I think.
What Zen Fix said. It sounds like your friends just want you to be bi because that would stir up some excitement in their world. Of course you notice girls... everybody does. Kissing? Come on, who hasn't practiced? Of course you can remain curious, and maybe that will lead to something. (I can confirm that kissing girls is great.) But really, your friends are just being, well silly if you cut them some slack, downright obnoxious if you don't.
I'm kinda in the same boat. People think I'm straight and a virgin, but i lost my virginity to men though. Some of my acquaintances constantly try to hook up me with girls however, I am not interested in them. It causes me to be anxious and depressed. I have to go through ridicule because i'm too scared to come out to everybody.
Sound straight . I know for a fact (my friendgroup is basically girls) that girls do things that if boys did them theyd be considered gay so dont fret
Firstly I want to state that I'm no expert having only recently (partially) come out to those around me. I found that people's perception can really surprise you. For instance my fully out and proud lesbian friend (married with two kids) didn't have even a trace of suspicion about my sexuality. She thought I was as straight as an arrow. However the people who I'd worked with for less than a year knew immediately. I suppose I'm trying to say don't let others define your sexuality. The way I found out for sure was by testing the waters. I met a guy on a dating app went out for quick drink then took him home, the date ended with a kiss (queue the aww's). The way that one kiss made me feel can only be described as exhilarating. That one kiss out ranked every sexual encounter I'd had with a women. I couldn't stop smiling for the entire drive home. And boom there you have it out and proud. This method of finding out worked for me, it may work for you, give it time your still young and stop listening to what people say about who you are. Good luck