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Being patient with a crush taking awhile to come to terms with being gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by lost101, Mar 7, 2017.

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  1. lost101

    lost101
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    I have a crush on a girl but she's been taking to long to come out tell me if she still feels the same way about me she kinda freaked out after a really good night/date and it's been about two months of her coming to terms would you wait around for someone while they come to terms with their sexuality or would you depending on how long they took not even bother even when they do come to terms with it?
     
    #1 lost101, Mar 7, 2017
  2. I'm gay

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    The process and timetable for coming out is unique to each individual. It can't be rushed and needs to happen (or not happen) when she is ready. It could happen quickly or it could take years.

    I would suggest that you move on. You can be a friend for her to work on self-acceptance by being someone she can talk to and confide in. But waiting for her may be a long time, and even then there's no guarantee that she will want to date you by then.

    I would not suggest that you put your life on hold waiting for her.

    Take care. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
    #2 I'm gay, Mar 7, 2017
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