Hi! Ive figured out that there are two approaches to coming out (at least): 1.Straight out and 2.Subliminal as guessed by the title, im trying the second one. Essentially, im trying to alter the way I look, speak, act etc. to give a subliminal impression of being "not straight". Currently im trying to dress differently e.g. skinnier jeans, furrier hoodies and shit like that. I mainly posted this to gather ideas on how to do this from you guys (and gals, and pan and trans etc. ) it would be fabulously great if you could help, thanks ~{^ยท^}~
I think you should do all that. It is an easy way so people just assume and they role with that. Maybe try makeup if that is a option or maybe look up gay guys and follow trends but maybe not too drastic because if you are not out to your family they may notice something.
This is the one I wear. Hopefully it posts correctly. Sure, it's LGBT, but it can also symbolize you being an ally. ---------- Post added 14th Mar 2017 at 01:35 PM ---------- Attempt #2.
I cracked up at 'furrier hoodies' as a way of coming out. That's so funny. I'm a woman but I seem to have a reasonable 'nose' for gay men these days (it was catastrophically bad in the past), and I think I probably pick up on the following (though I'd be looking for a combination, not a single instance): - Tightness of jeans - Tightness of t-shirts - Short t-shirts, showing bellybutton trigger my gaydar (though I think some sub-cultures at schools go for this anyway) - Particularly showy hairstyles - Satchels rather than rucksacks - Scatter cushions on your bed (seriously, how did I miss this sign in the past?) - Expressing admiration for a particular good looking actor, without specifying exactly what it is you like - Tweets etc. sharing LGBT supportive posts - Sitting with legs crossed (although in parts of Europe that doesn't mean anything) Should add most are stereotypically camp signs and with more straight-acting men it's really difficult, although again I often seem to be able to tell, but couldn't tell you why. Sometimes it's a real thoughtfulness and reflectiveness about life that indicates someone has had to think a lot about the world and their place in it. When I see that in someone and it makes them look older than their years, that's an indication. (Could also be down to family tragedy, dealing with other types of adversity, of course.)
