So. This is gonna be loooooong. I'm a closet bi ftm transguy, who is also a closet atheist, that lives with a mormon family. My brother started having questions about the church, and the mormon church is NOT a church where you want to express any doubt. Well, my brother did express doubt. But my mom didn't freak out. They kind of had a friendly debate, but I knew it wouldn't stay that way if my brother didn't pretend to change his mind quick. Well he did, but I don't know if he was pretending. I just want him to be able to think for himself. But the thing is, it's just so WEIRD how my mom didn't flip out. I mean, I "came out" as gender confused, even though I wasn't confused and knew I was trans. My parents reacted very well. But slowly, that good reaction started to change into them giving me a constant guilt trip and starting to freak out. Back into the closet I went. When my parents were having that "debate" with my brother, I just felt almost completely safe to come out as everything that I am. But I knew that if I told her, she would eventually start freaking out no matter how cool she reacted at first. Even though I know from prior experience that it's only an act, I've never felt that safe coming out. I know I need to tell them eventually. I think my best option is to drop super obvious hints until it's obvious they suspect something, then come out so it won't be such a shock to them. But I can't drop hints about my atheism. My parents didn't freak out at my brother, but they were VERY concerned. I don't know what I'll do about that.
