Coming out to my Twin Brother Soon.

I'd say it's time. I think you can tell him it's been difficult telling him, but you probably don't need to tell him why it's been difficult. I can guarantee once you tell him, he'll think of all those things he's said.

Lex

 

Yeah, he'll probably want to know why he was the last in the family to know and you are going to have to tell him. Good luck with it and let us know how it goes!

 

Does it annoy anyone else? What is the nature of the insults? Is it actually making fun of gays, or just more of a "That's gay"?

If you do tell him, I wouldn't offer that as a reason why you didn't tell him. No idea how he'll take it, but he may be hurt that you didn't tell him. And as Lex points out, he'll undoubtedly think about what he says.

 

Good luck

 

i say next time its jsut you two and he makes a gay joke give him a punch in the arm in a brotherly way and say hey man i find that offensive .. hell be confused then as he raelises you say yes im gay ( i would prob of laughed at the dumb recognition) lol and then its been hard to tell cos of the remarks or whatever the thing is you brothers you should be close

maybe try the if he says thats so gay just say nah im gayer or summat quick sweet simple

i want it too work for you Ed you deserve it too work and hes your brother he should love you and accept you no matter what

 

Good luck, Becky has the right advice once again.I am planning on telling on own brother within a few weeks myself.

 

its ok Ed you can vent anytime here its a hard thing ya doing were here for ya

 

You have two options...

1) Don't speak to him again, and never let on why. Continue to hear his homophobic jokes at family functions and remain forever uncomfortable around him.

2) Come out to him, and maybe he'll never speak to you agian. Perhaps STILL remain forever uncomfortable around him at family functions. BUT you will have told him the truth about you, and it leaves him with the knowledge that his own twin is one of those 'gays' that he makes jokes about. The ball will be in HIS court. And you can have some peace of mind.

I'd go with number 2. Odds are that you'll have educated him and reduced the ignorance of yet another homophobe. You'd be doing us ALL a favour!

Maybe just sending him an email would be the best way. My initial reaction to your first post was the same as Lex and Becky - don't bother telling him why you're coming out to him. But if this is something he does EVERY TIME you see him, then he needs to be told that it's not acceptable, and that he's likely offending not just you, but countless others around him with these remarks.

 

Hi Ed,
Sweetie,you've come such a long way is a short time. Remember how you felt,first with your sister and then with your parents? And you came out to them,anyway and you feel so much better,now.
Your brother is the last you need to tell. I'm not saying to do it,today. But,like I said you've come too far to let this get you down.
You CAN do this. What ever way you feel most comfortable,a letter,e-mail or face to face,I know you'll be okay.
I think once he knows how the rest of the family accepted you,he'll more apt to,also.
Tell him why you waited to tell him,if you want to. He's your brother,so you certainly know him better then we do.
Remember,we're all here for you. And ,I,most of all,wish you the courage you need to tell your brother. Take your time,as you did with the others. I know you'll be okay.
:::hugs:::. Mickey*