I keep flip flopping, between being ready to come out and not ready. But i think i was able to dismiss my doubts once and or all. my thought process went something like this: What I thought I was supposed to feel for guys and what I actually feel for the girls I like are two completely different things. When I was "straight" I always thought of guys in such a sexual manner. I realized that l never had truly wanted an emotional connection with a guy, it never felt natural. When I think about being with a women I see a deep emotional connection, totally different that what I could have with a guy. I think this could be the thing that gets me over this last hump, the only thing holding me back is the chance that I could actually be straight. But I'm pretty convinced I wouldn't crave this type of relationship with a girl (and be so uninterested in men) if i were straight. Do you think I'm ready to finally come out?
Only you can decide when you're ready. You sound like you're pretty sure of yourself, and if you're in a good environment to come out there's no reason not to. You can always go with 'I like women' or 'I'm queer' or something if you're not ready to commit to a label. Coming out is pretty much always stressful and scary, but you can do it!
I agree with the previous posters comments. Only you can decide when you are ready. This is important in helping you to determine if you are gay/lesbian, but I noticed you didn't mention sexual thoughts for the same sex. You talked about a deep emotional connection, but you made no reference to sexual thoughts. Was this an oversight, or are you not having the sexual thoughts towards the same sex?
