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why can't I tell him? X(

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  1. Kizz

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    I tried SOOOOOOOOOO hard, but I kept pulling back. I just don't know what the hell is wrong with me X(
    bolded phrases are me, trying to sway the conversation to tell him easier
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    I REALLY want to tell him. he is my best friend and would be very accepting.
    any idea what I could do? X(
     
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    Omg! :eek: I can't believe I read through that whole thing...

    To only find that you hinted that you had a secret.

    If you want to come out to your friend, then just tell him!!! Pick up the phone and call him, or see him in person. Or send him an email. If he's your best mate, he'll be cool with it, and you'll feel better for having it out in the open.

    That, or just decide that you're NOT ready to tell him, and don't agonize over it every time you talk with him. It's just too hard on yourself to do that.
     
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    wow, i read the whole thing too. and i agree with jim. if wanna tell him, just do so.
     
    #3 Alex19, Apr 20, 2009
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    “Many of our fears are tissue-paper thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them.” -Brendan Francis

    In other words: Just do it.
     
    #4 Coldflame, Apr 20, 2009
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    :| just tell him sean i got confused reading that so chances are just tell him cos itll all be to confusing to make much sense anyway. if hes your friend he will accept you
     
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    Hi there! As others have mentioned, just do it. If you feel ready to come out to him, try to take him aside and talk with him. Maybe start the conversation by telling him that you want to share with him something important and that you want to be yourself around him.

    You know that he would be very accepting. Use that to tell yourself things will be okay, so that your fears don't overtake you. When you feel that you are ready, take a deep breath, and take it from there. As Jim said, either write him an e-mail, or talk to him in person. Which ever way you do it is fine.
     
    #6 Mirko, Apr 20, 2009
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    I totally get what you mean. There are people who I want to tell but never have worked up the courage. You had a perfect opportunity there, but it's only perfect if you're ready for it. I'm sure that the time will come. Some wise person once said, "It'll be all right in the end; if it's not all right, it's not the end."

    Stay strong!
     
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    I'll try. I'll be more forceful with the subject next time :lol:
    well, I guess it'll be today should everything go to plan :3
    so, just to wait :/
     
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    Yea it sounds like he might even be gay :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    Or at least really accepting.

    You just gotta tell him dude...I'm sure it'll go over fine!
     
    #9 InaRut, Apr 21, 2009
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    nah, he isn't. he has a girlfriend.
    or is she a girl friend? :confused:
    coming to think of it, I don't actually know.
    he may :confused:
    but he is a little odd. he wears a cloak for a coat, he pierced his lips and likes to draw....
    no, he's straight :lol:
    still :confused:
     
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    i like to draw and id love a cloak hehehe
     
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    trust me, he draws rude straight things X(
     
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    i draw rude things when i can be bothered the female can be to hide the fact if he draws a guy pay attention to the drawing does he spend alot of time on it?

    just tell hes cute see what he says lol or if he would draw u lol
     
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    NO :lol:
     
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    DAMN! X( got SOOOOOOOOO close, but chickened out X((
    SOOO CLOSE! :bang:
    I just didn't have the nerve to go one step further :tears:
     
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    Well, I think he knows. How couldn't he with that last exchange? And he's giving you all the support you would want. It's time. But if you really have an issue with the next step, why don't you ask him what he thinks your secret is? It might be easier for you to just say 'yes' when he asks if you are gay.
     
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    your so close and he wont say anything bad cos itll go against what he said in that convo ^ i think he must havea good idea what your hiding perhaps if you cant say your gay tell him you arent straight i know may sound weird and just as hard but it can be easyer because your makeing abit more statment out of it and not so much a confession

    or jsut tell him your fabulous hehe
     
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    I'm not sure if he knows X( all I know is that I am trying, but that's the closest I've got to telling him
    X((((
    god, I hate being shy :bang:
    I can't wait till college, then I'll try to be a little more open.
     
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    Have you tried talking with him? It's good that you are trying and thinking about it. Keep trying. The next time you try to come out, before you say or write it, try to take a deep breath and try to tell yourself 'he is accepting, and it is going to be alright.'

    He is your friend, and you know him. You are giving him the chance to get to know one more part of you. Will it change anything? Based on what you have written, nope!
     
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    I agree with the others, I believe that he already knows and is just waiting for you to tell him the truth. Also, If he is truely a friend he will not care about it. Judging by what he said "If people insult you they are idiots. They are lower beings and just ignore them to be honest" he will not care about the fact your gay.

    Just tell him

    P.S. I think its cute that you are shy
     
    #20 KittyBoy, Apr 22, 2009
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