My friend hates lesbians and I don't know how to come out to her.

I wouldn't even want to remain friends with such a hateful person, but that's just my opinion.

 

My best friend used to be pretty homophobic until our other best friend and I both came out to her and I think that made her realize that we are still ourselves whether she knows were gay or not. It made her realize that being gay doesn't change your personality. She is now very accepting of gay people.

 

I think you should try to weigh the pros and cons of coming out to her. Is there going to be a negative reaction? Can you handle it? The answers to these questions may help.

 

I suggest you come out to your gay friends and maybe they can help you work it out

 

Have you ever asked her why she seems to dislike lesbians so much? I've been in the situation where I tried to deny homosexuality so much as to be scared to let myself get into the position that I may be hit on by another woman and not be able to fight back attraction, so I would avoid that situation at all costs. I wonder if this could be the case for her?

 

Personally, I would hesitate to come out to someone like that, especially when she feels so strongly about it. I know what it's like to want to share our lives, especially this very big chunk of ourselves, with people we are close to. But sometimes it's just not realistic... you wrote you're not sure if you would be able to deal a possible negative reaction and that you don't want to risk your friendship. I wouldn't go there with someone who could respond so negatively. You don't deserve this negativity and hatred in your life. Sometimes, as much as we like and feel close to some people, we can't share absolutely everything with them for various reasons. That's the way it is sometimes. I hope it will change in the future but for now... that's just the way it is.

 

Seem like a hard situation. I do have to wonder why she has this hate towards lesbains. Maybe she is in a more simular situation to yourself and is in denial?

Maybe leave little hints to her. Maybe for the time being lie hint that your bi. Ease her into the idea.

But as said someone with all this hate seems like someone who might not be worth ur while

 

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I see what the situation is...I wouldn't worry too much.
Maybe she has had some bad experience with some girl in particular and that's why she dislikes lesbians?

If you're important to her she'll deal with it and will probably not mind.
Just do it. I looks like your suffering while not telling her.
If she gets mad or something you're better off without her.

Don't worry!! <3

 

I feel like this is likely the case.

 

hello, uhm your situation seems quite complicated. the first thing you maybe should do is coming out to your gay friends and also asking her why the hate to lesbians as some members say above. the thing is, there are these two options... maybe she's in a deep denial bcs she feels insecure or bcs she really seems lebs like a wrong thing? is kind of weird bcs if she likes male gays a lot as friends is contradictory to me. because clearly isn't a 'morality' case.
I wish you the best of lucks... I'm still soo far away to even coming out as pan to my friends. *sighs*

 

Everything I was going to suggest was already said by all of the other responses. Find out why she is 'afraid' of lesbians, maybe she has a skewed view. If she likes you as a friend maybe she just doesn't understand it. Good luck with your friend. I hope it works out for the both of you!