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An e-mail to my brother!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BasketCase, Apr 22, 2009.

  1. BasketCase

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    Many years ago I came out to one of my brothers, I didnt do it in the ideal way, I sent him a text, but I was young at the time, I cant even remember how young. Anyway, now that I really want to tell others about me being gay, I thought it would be helpful to talk with him about it.

    We havent been as close as we used to but he was always the person I could talk to.

    I've posed a draft of what I wrote below and would appreciate any comments, even passing ones, on how it sounds.

    I felt it was quite short but I didnt want to start rambling on.

    In other news, I am going to the doctor tomorrow, I've had a sore head for a week but really I just wanted to let my doctor know what has been going on with me incase I need any kind of medical help in the future.
     
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    I think it's a great letter. It is honest and relays to your brother the importance of this to you. I hope you get a good response.
     
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    it's well executed and gets the point across. send it already.
     
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    Sounds great!
     
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    Yup,gotta agree with the others. It's right to the point and very honest.
    Best wishes to you. And I hope it goes well at the DRs.,too.
     
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    I totally agree with all the others. It is clear and gets the point across. Honest and conveys the sense of importance.

    I hope that you head is ok, and that it is nothing serious.

    Good luck and I hope the response is what you hope for!
     
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    Great letter :slight_smile:
     
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    that sounds great...best of luck.
     
  9. BasketCase

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    Thanks for the replies. I'll go ahead and send it once I get confirmation back from my brother that i have the right e-mail address and that no-one else has access to it or will be looking over his shoulder.

    As for the doctor, she more or less confirmed what I thought it was, headaches brought on by tension/stress.
     
  10. BasketCase

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    I've sent it. Not sure why I feel nervous when he already knows I am gay.
     
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    your nervous because you care about your brother and want him to be able to accept and open up to you , you miss not beeing as close to him as you once were and hope this will help restore that ist normal dont worry im sure hell understand it was a good letter

    take it easy x
     
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    im sure youll get a good reaction. it was an amazing letter
     
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    I think I have possibly got the best brother in the world:tears:
     
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    What did he say? What was his reaction?
     
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    His reaction was excellent, very supportive, and he gave me his general view on things.

    The only point I disagreed with him on is where he said I shouldnt tell my dad if I expect to get a negative reaction. I think I need to tell my dad and let him react however he wants. I've had a closer relationship with my dad that anyone else in the family over the last ten years - if he wants to disapprove of me because I am gay then he and I will just have to deal with that.
     
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    congrats man u got one top bro :slight_smile: