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the closet life

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by 507bro, Apr 25, 2009.

  1. 507bro

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    hello guys i'm 17 and i've been in the closet since well when i was
    born, anyways i want to keep this short.
    i have asian parents and they well are traditional
    they are cold hearted at times and well i just can't
    seem to come out in front of them.
    also at my high school i've always wanted a BF
    but the gay guys at my school are not my type.
    i have a hard time comming out at my school because
    of how the gay guys are are treated at my school.
    people can't tell that i'm gay even the gay guys at my
    school can't even tell. there is also this guy that i like
    and i'm afraid of telling him because the fear of rejection.
    i get depress real easy and i just don't want to be even more
    depress when that happens. any word of advise to help me on my issue?
     
  2. Eleanor Rigby

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    Hi, and welcome to EC !
    I think you'll find here a lot of people who are or have been in the same boat and hopefully you'll find the support you need.
    A lot of people here are much more qualified than me to answer your questions, and I'm sure they will.
    As far as I know about the question of coming out, I think you have to do it only when you'll feel completly ready, and it can take a while. There is no rush at all. You already had done a big step by coming out to yourself. Now you have to do what you are comfortable with, and if you feel you'll feel safer remaining in the closet for a while, it is completly fine.
    If you want to come out, you don't have to come out to every body at the same time. You can start by a very close friend, your doctor, a teacher, anyone you trust and feel safe around.
    And when you feel depressed, come to Ec, there is always somebody nice to talk to here :slight_smile:
    Take care, Eleanor
     
  3. Z3ni

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    Yeah you should take it step by step:slight_smile:
     
  4. Jim1454

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    Hello and welcome to EC.

    I'd agree as well. I think if you read some of the threads here in EC you'll find that many of us don't appear gay, and nobody would guess that we were. Some of us found it difficult to figure out that we were gay ourselves.

    There's no need to come out. Accepting it for yourself might help with the depression. Eventually you'll feel comfortable coming out to your parents. And hopefully they'll take it well.

    Just hang around here. This is a great site.
     
  5. xequar

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    College. You're 17, so college is likely just around the corner. If you don't htink you can come out now, just go to college as an openly gay person.

    And who knows, maybe there'll be a couple of gay guys that are your type there too! :wink: