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That was all? I was terrified for no reason^^

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by FlowerOfLife, May 1, 2017.

  1. FlowerOfLife

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    Hey guys:slight_smile:

    So I finally did come out to my best friend. It had taken me months and months to get the courage to do so and she reacted like it was nothing!?

    She reacted so naturally accepting that I almost died right there. Her reaction was perfect.
    I had been terrified of telling her... and now I'm so so so incredibly relieved. It's crazy.
    I told her that I had been scared to tell her cause I thought that our relationship could've changed.
    She just made fun of me and said 'how could anything change, you've known me since I was about 5 years old'.

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    I guess I need to explain that I've been in love with a friend of mine (guy) for ages and I went on a trip with him and two other friends a few weeks ago. On the trip we started to get even closer...and I even told him that I'm into girls as well...
    Many things happened, but I can skip them and mention only the essential part:
    We're going out now and I'm extremely happy and everything is great.

    I think his reaction helped me a lot so I could find the strength to tell my best friend about my sexual orientation.

    And also, even if it might seem like it's not so important: this forum and the people that have replied to my few posts motivating me and encouraging me to tell her!! Thank you<3

    I'm almost getting ridiculous here, but you guys need to know what a relieve this has been!! I thought I was going to pass out.

    :slight_smile: (*hug*):smilewave
     
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    Congratulations, FlowerOfLife. I can't tell you how excited I am to hear that you've come out. It's such a huge accomplishment for all of us and then when we finally do come out, we look back and say "man, if only I knew it was going to be this easy". I'm glad that your best friend and boyfriend are accepting of who you are. Kudos to them and to you.
     
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    Congratulations, FlowerOfLife!:thumbsup: That's wonderful!:slight_smile:
     
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    That's so awesome, congratulations! You are very courageous :slight_smile: and you have some good friends too!
     
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    How inspiring! Keep on doing your best, bud :^)
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    God I didn't expect so many people replying to this post:')

    THANK YOU GUYS <3

    ---------- Post added 2nd May 2017 at 06:59 PM ----------

    You're so right...
    if only I had known before:')

    :grin:
     
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    Congratulations! Great news:smilewave

    I'm happy for you.:eusa_clap
     
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    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! >v<
     
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    Congrats girl :love:

    I know how it is, this weekend I came out to a person I barely know, and every time I do it it's very scary because my country is mostly homophobic (but my generation is more accepting, thankfully), but so far everyone has been really great and hasn't changed their opinion on me in the slightest. Coming out is not easy but we sometimes make it even harder for ourselves for no reason :lol:
     
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    Way to go!!! I'm happy for you!
     
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    That's great! But this is not a shock. Most people don't care. They only care that you are a good friend and compatible with them. That's all I care about.
     
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    Hey you... Well done... Told ya didn't I
     
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    Congratulations, that took a lot of courage. I'm happy for you :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks again to all of you:slight_smile:
    And yes, we do make it harder ourselves...
    I guess I'll know better if I'm in a similar situation again.

    You guys are great, REALLY <3 !!

    It's funny that also I have become more confortable with myself, I 'allow' myself to look at girls more (not in any weird sense...but simply cause they're pretty or so)...
    and I can even walk around town saying 'uhhhh look at this pretty girl' with my friend and she'll just laugh and call me a lesbian or something.
    Really glad hahaha