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Need opinion on "coming out letter" I am about to give to my mom

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by CatsAreCool, May 4, 2017.

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  1. CatsAreCool

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    Hello all!

    On Saturday I will FOR SURE THIS TIME be coming out to my mom. I wrote this letter to give to her and I wanted to know what you all think of it/ if you have any advice for me/ constructive criticism? I want to get this right! Thanks in advance! (Names have been changed/removed to protect privacy)

    View attachment Dear Mom.docx
     
    #1 CatsAreCool, May 4, 2017
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    Wow! That is a beautifully written letter. It is obviously heartfelt. I probably wouldn't change anything about it.

    I hope she realises what an amazing person you are. Good luck
     
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    Thanks! It felt so good to write this letter, I hope she can see where I'm coming from
     
    #3 CatsAreCool, May 4, 2017
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    It's about as good as it gets. What does one expect from such a cool name? Good luck!
     
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    It's a beautiful letter. I wish I had the courage you had to write such a piece and to give it to your mom. Good luck!
     
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    God, you are brave! I love you for that (*hug*)
    Every loving mother would embrace you. It's an amazing letter! :eusa_clap
    Best of luck (*hug*)
     
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    It's a superb letter. I'm sure you put a lot of effort into getting it just right... and you have achieved that. Please let us know how it goes and remember we are here for you regardless. :slight_smile:
     
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    (!)(!)It went really well! She read it and she said, "How could I ever love you any less?" And that of course she supports me and that this could never change anything!:eusa_danc
     
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    :eusa_danc(!!):music::thewave:

    That's awesome. That's how every parent and friend etc should react
     
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    Reading your beautiful letter and your mum's reaction has brought a tear to my eye. I'm so happy for you (*hug*)
     
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    :icon_bigg Great news!
     
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    Update: I am at home for the summer, and I went out to lunch alone with my dad and he said, "you know, I wanted to talk to you about your letter... I want you to know that it could never change anything for me or how much I love you, I just want you to be happy, that's all." WHICH IS LIKE, YALL, HE NEVER TALKS ABOUT ANYTHING PERSONAL AND HE BROUGHT IT UP TO ME. I'm just so happy now that everything is out in the open with my parents, and that it all went so well! Next stop, Grandma!!
     
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    Congratulations CatsAreCool!:thumbsup:That's wonderful!:slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations! That's amazing :slight_smile:
     
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