Every time I come out to someone I feel like I have a panic attack afterwards and a feeling like everything I thought I knew I don't (there were some exceptions to this rule but those were people I slowly came out to so I was able to know their response before I was fully out). I just feel like it's crazy to learn the people you thought were secretly gay are actually straight and the people you thought were straight are secretly gay or bisexual. I'm a future psychology major and I'm just wondering what it does to the brain to experience these drastic shifts in perception. Also I definitely projected my gayness onto my friends growing up. I thought they were gay but really I was gay and they were straight.