The Best Way to Come Out

One of the best ways I've heard, that various people have told me about, is to act like they already know. If you're talking to someone say something like, "I went on a date last night, but she isn't really what I'm looking for," or "I like this girl, but I don't know how to tell her." If you treat it as something casual, there's a good chance whoever you're talking to will too.

 

^ thats what I kind of did. We were talking about this gay guy that we hung out with and I said "We could never be though... because he lives to far away" (While she was expecting "BECAUSE IM NOT GAY" or somthing).

I too could use a new creative way for my next coming out (hopefully in a couple weeks)

 

I got myself a nice rainbow colored bracelet. people notice it, but it's only the ones that cared that have asked about it so far which is nice. then I can just say "yeah, it's a gay pride bracelet."

 

were can i find these pride bracelet thingys?

 

Usually I just say something about a girl that walks past, but that was after I'd already come out to all my good friends. For them I just told them I had something important to talk to them about, that way I knew they'd bug me so I couldn't back out. Then I just sat them down and straight up let them know.

 

I did that to. If it is a close friend, I would tell them that you really need to talk about something important. It can be scary, but it usually keeps you from backing out. It helped me.
I think the other ideas a great though too. The braclet thing is a great idea if you just want to come out to everyone.
Good luck. You can do it!

 

Ooh yeah that is a good one too. Once you say you have something important to say they probably wont leave you alone until you say it. Or pretty much ask you every possibility of what it could be, until they ask "Are you gay?" Then you don't have to do anything, just nod! :icon_bigg lol

 

To get a pride bracelet,necklace,shirts,etc, go to Cafepress.com. They have a LGBT section. I have ordered a few things through them. I haven't had any problems with them and I think they have a lot of cool stuff.

 

is there any way to get this stuff without buying it online? i don't trust online shoping sites

 

>>>is there any way to get this stuff without buying it online? i don't trust online shoping sites

Yeah, but it involves going into gay shops, or to booths at gay pride day, and buying them there. Not sure that'd be any more comfortable.

I'm a fan of this method when it comes to people who aren't REALLY close to me - just act like they already know. So I'll talk about my boyfriend, or mention that I find an actor hot, or whatever. I hardly ever get a "OMG, you're GAY?" reaction. They just take it in stride.

Lex

 

I am half considering doing this to my parents.That way I can be extremely casual about it.

 

Random person or acquaintance asks me > just say yes

Trying to tell a friend or relative > come up with some extremely outlandish way, like rigging a bunch of rainbow confetti to fall on them or putting up gay-related posters all over the house

Anyone else > whatever fits the situation

 

Oh. My. God.

I totally have a friend that would die from laughing if I was all serious "I need to talk to you" then popped confetti in her face and danced around yelling "I'm Gay!!!!!"


... im gonna do it.... yes sir yes

 

I have a pride ribbon I wear on my backpack that people notice! It kinda does all the talking. :icon_wink

 

I personally don't have a way to come out. it just happened :/

however, you'd be surprised at how many people read their sister's/brother's emails :lol:

 

For my parents I gay out said "I'm gay". Beating around the bush seems to be end in tears a lot. Some people prefer a letter, and I can see it if you're not physically close to them, but it seems a little weird if you are. However for different people, different things work better. There is no one best way.

I can see being more casual with mere acquaintances, or even some friends, but some people I think you should flat out tell.

 

Just wanted you to know that this is a very safe site to order from. As I said,I have ordered several items and have never had any problems. I would take Lex's advice,if that's the way you'd prefer to purchase things. I don't really know of any other places.:icon_bigg

 

That, is a very, very good method.

And it's kind of like mine. I always assumed that my mother knew. I figured her maternal instincts would tell her or some crap like that. Lol I was wrong.

There is no "best way." It depends entirely on how comfortable you and you are with your parents. But, you can just do what I did: go downstairs, and just say it.

 

my friend wrote the best coming out song ever in the history of ever, in my opinion. here are the lyrics!!

Coming out


Verse 1

The last thing I want to do is disappoint you.

I try to make you proud of me in everything I do.

But I’m sick and tired of waiting,

For you to ask, who I’m so obviously dating.

And I just want you to love me for whom I am,

Not because you have to,

Because you want to

And because you know that it’s still me,

I haven’t changed you see.


Chorus

The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do,

Was simply to tell you,


Verse 2

You’re no fool,

You’ve probably guessed,

But without you saying you know,

I just get more and more stressed.

And I hope you still love me,

Cause this is who I am,

This is where I am in my life,

And I know you understand.


Chorus

The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do,

Was simply to tell you,

To say that one simple phrase,

And even now I can’t write its’ a haze.


Verse 3

I don't blame you for reacting badly,

I don't hold a grudge.

But you need to see that this is me,

How you feel about it, you’re the judge.

And this song is me coming out to you,

The best way I can think of,

I am more articulate in this form,

So listen to me and say that you still love.


Chorus

The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do,

Was simply to tell you,

To say that one simple phrase,

And even now I can’t write its’ a haze.

But I’ve gotta do it sometime,

Pluck up the courage to cross the line.


Verse 4

Let me stress I’m not suddenly camp,

And I have two left feet,

I don’t lisp my words,

I don’t fancy every bloke and Pete.

Girls are complicated and they don’t seem to get me at all,

Indeed they seem to misunderestimate me,

They feel too short before the fall,

But that’s just one in 3 and 1/3 billion so with girls i’m unsure


Chorus

The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do,

Was simply to tell you,

To say that one simple phrase,

And even now I can’t write its’ a haze.

But I’ve gotta do it sometime,

Pluck up the courage to cross the line.

So here goes, listen to what I say,

Mum I’m gay.