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i'm scared

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Dragonair, May 4, 2009.

  1. Dragonair

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    does anyone have advice not to be scared?
     
  2. djt820

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    Youre going to die so your fear wont really matter once that happens.
     
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    Fear's natural. Real courage comes from doing something despite being afraid.
     
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    Hi there! Why are you scared?

    As Maddy said, fear is natural. Sometimes in trying to overcome it, involves doing the thing that causes you to be scared and trying to overcome a fear as best as you can.

    If you want to talk about things more privately, feel free to send me a pm too. Just click on the username and select "Send a private message to." You are more than welcome to keep posting here too.

    Hope you are doing okay though.
     
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    :eusa_doh: Well, not exactlly the "bright and cheery" type are we?

    ...back to the topic.

    Its ok honey (*hug*) Everyone gets afraid sometimes. What is it that your afraid of? If you give some details we could help you more?

    But in general if im afraid i try and surround myself with friends or busy myself with tasks to keep my mind of things. Distract your mind and soon you wont remember you were afraid in the first place.

    Dunno what other advice to give, but if you want to 1 on 1 chat just wall post me :slight_smile:
     
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    a little fear isn't necessarily a bad thing. For one, it means you want to do well and will push yourself to do better. Fear means you have something to lose. I know that doesn't exactly answer your question, but I thought I would put it out there.
     
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    It's natural to be scared. If you want, you can elaborate more on what you're scared of so we can help you.
    But in general, I just find it helpful to turn to people you trust when you're scared. You won't feel as scared and they might help you take your mind of it.
    If not, then well, we're here! We're all ears and there are people with really helpful advice. :slight_smile:
     
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    Never was.
    Its hard to give advice on such a vague post.