wanting to come out to straight guy friends but very scared...

Well, I understand your desire to come out to further friends. And to be honest, if they become more distant once they know you are gay, are you really losing that much of a future post-high school friendship if as you say, no personal stuff is shared and the stuff you talk about is boring anyway.

I realize that bringing up "Hey guys, I'm gay!" out of the blue might be awkward. So maybe instead you could do it less directly, when talking about random stuff. Like what you are doing after school (going to a local/school queer club), discussing a movie (that actor was really hot ), or something else that might make it obvious. Then they may ask you if you are gay, and you say yes. This way, they actually brought it up

 

Well, for one, dont worry about what is going to happen with these friends. You said it yourself, they are not the "hate" type. They may back off a little and distance themselves, but ask yourself this: Do you REALLY want to hang around people who only like you because they dont know your gay? Having a bunch of fake friends is the same as having no friends, either way you still have no one when it boils down to it. Its bound to be awkward at first, but the sooner you come out the faster the awkward period will be over. Just remember your sexuality wasnt something you came to grips with in a day, so its oly fair you give them time too.

Your on the right path though Its obvious that you want to be out and proud and not care about what people think as much. That almost comes naturally the more people you tell i find.

If the subject does not come up much, you could always stick to the internet and come out that way to these friends too? No shame in doing it behind a computer, as long as you still do it. E-mailing works better than IM from my past experiences. I like it better because i can get everything i want to say down at once and not have them talking back. Its also helpful because you can do a few drafts before your pleased with it.

 

if it helps i'm in a pretty similar situation, my best friend knows, so does one of my closest friends, and of yesterday another friend woop, but i'm not sure how everyone else will take it, and want to make sure my other close friends hear it from me, not somebody else but am not ready yet to tell loads of other people or be completely 'out', unfortunately there are still loads of pretty homophobic people out there, so i'm pretty much telling one friend at a time, and if they are true friends i'm sure they will understand, so far i haven't had any negative reactions, and i have gotten loads of good advice and stuff which is really good, so u r in no way alone lol

 

Well, I guess I am in this same boat, I have told two girls who are really close friends, but no one else, even though I want to tell so many others. I live in a town that is fine with homosexuals, it is just that practically no one is out (1 person total that I know of). The problem with me isn't just that my guy friends don't talk about anything personal, it is also that I never see them anymore, school has dominated my life and kept me from hanging out, which used to be the norm. My friend's girlfriend is even in the schools GSA (which I am not actually a member of), though I see him maybe twice a week at school, and rarely outside of school. Also, I don't know what it is, nerves or something I guess, but something just keeps me from telling them whenever I see them, as if I know it isn't the right time, even though it may be; like one time when I was alone in the car with a friend and he was pouring out personal secret-type stuff to me...

I don't know, personally, I want to tell people in person, I feel as though letters or emails would be too impersonal (at least in my case), though it is tough for me after I first came out to my two friends. Thus, I am starting to reconsider the whole 'in person' ordeal.

Anyways, good luck with your endeavours, your friends sound like they will be cool with it and all, especially the one who made that comment about if he was gay.