What the hell is wrong with me? I'm sitting on the couch a few hours ago, and this happens... Mom: Tim, are you gay? Me: [stares at mom, mouth agape] ...uh....no... Mom: You like girls? Me: [dazed] uhhhh.....yeah. Mom: Oh, phew! It was like watching a car accident in slow motion. :bang:
I would've just come out. But, she might've said phew because she was afraid of how difficult having a gay son would be. It's something most parents don't account for and for most, it's probably shocking, devastating, and causes panic because it's something they probably don't know how to deal with but it is usually temporary.
That could give you an easy way to bring it up with her later, though, when you want to tell her... "Mum, you know how you asked me a while ago if I was gay? Well..."
Hi there! Your mum asking could indicate that she is suspecting something. That said, it is never easy to come out to your mum or your parents. Come out to her when you feel ready and feel the right time has come. There is no rush. Knowing how your mum might react or how she might respond, will definitely help you in preparing for whenever that day comes. When you do decide to come out to her, it might be a good idea to have some PFLAG and other educational materials ready for her. As The Enigma said, usually parents will come around eventually. Often, education is the key, in which you can play an important part.
I think that's one of those moments where you wish the floor would open up and you'd fall through it. Is it possible she's found something to imply you're gay? (going through browser cache, or notes/newspapers/articles/etc) I agree that the "Just kidding" idea is a great one. Or even a short note, before you leave for school or something, that says "Your question caught me totally off guard and I responded out of reflex, but actually I am gay. I will be happy to talk more about it tonight." That way it will give her a few hours to go through the initial shock and by the time you're back around you can hopefully talk with a little less shock/emotion in the air.
I really like using the "remember how..." too. It is a great way to start the convo and not have to pull the idea out of nowhere. I would suggest doing that or the note idea is good too. Notes can be nice b/c you can say everything you want and share all the necessary info without interuptions from your mom or without really intense emotional tension. Whatever youfeel more comfortable with. Good luck.
