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Advice for a date...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by otc877, May 30, 2009.

  1. otc877

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    I've met this guy through facebook and we've been talking for a few days. He's asked me out for dinner tomorrow night. He chose a restaurant in a mall that a lot of old high school friends still go to. I'm worried that I'll see somebody I know and who I'm not out to yet.

    I really want to see him, but I don't know if I'm even being rational at this point. Also, who pays for what? I'm sure this has been asked many times before, but I'm nervous and excited and I need some personal advice.
     
  2. EM68

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    Since it is a first date I would split the bill. Don't worry if someone knows you. Its not uncommon for 2 guys to go out for dinner. Just be yourself and you will be fine.
     
  3. Just Adam

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    Ed said it all split bill and your just 2 guys eating unless its candlelight a rose and holding hands all dreamy eyed then i think your safe but so what if they see you fuck them dont let them ruin your date :slight_smile:
     
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    First off - two guys eating at a restaurant doesn't make them gay. Unless they're eating each other. (rimshot)

    Secondly, assume you're splitting the bill. He may insist on paying, in which case, thank him profusely and don't fight him on it.

    Lex
     
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    anything for a free meal hay lex :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: lol
     
  6. Pepsi

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    :eusa_clap Wow Lex just wow on that first part

    But back on topic, everyone else seems to have said it all.
     
  7. joeyconnick

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    I don't think it would be unreasonable to suggest somewhere else where you're less likely to run into someone if you think it's going to make you nervous. I have seen two guys out for dinner and been like "They are SO gay." But then, I'm gay, which I like to think makes me far more clued in than, say, random straight people--plus I may have been projecting because they were both hot. :lol:
     
  8. tm74

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    As others have said, two guys in a restaurant does not make them a couple - I often have meals in the company of work colleagues for example - doesn't mean we're dating!