Hii, I'm Kyla. I'm 16 years old, and so far, ive come out to everyone but my family that I am bi. But, lately i've been messing around with alot of guys, and don't seem to have any emotional attachment at all. I've done some reasearch and for awile my awnser was that I am hypersexual, which could definately explain why I am like this. But, lately i've been thinking. I've only ever had one girlfriend, and I absolutely adored her. The only thing was we never really went past kissing, I was extremely nervous about it and I just didnt feel like it was the right time. I've had offers to do stuff with girls, but theyre all just my friends, and none of them really feel like it would be "special" which is what i want it to be. So, I'm thinking that i dont get attached to guys because i may be a lesbian, I am extremely attracted to girls and always notice girls more than I do guys. whenever I do something with a girl it always means something and I feel extremely connected. Ive made a pretty bad reputation for myself with the way i am with guys, but does anyone think that my thinking may be right? I know in my heart that I like girls, I use guys for sexual pleasure and just throw em away like garbage. I havent had an actual "crush" on anyone for a long time, except one girl who I used to work with. I'm just really really really really confused. Help?!
Everyone figures there orientation out with time and it seems like your getting there, you say you use guys for sexual pleasure so I asume that you have no emotional atraction to guys its just sexual. You said you notice girls more than guys I can't tell you if your bi or a lesbian but it sounds like you are attracted to girls more.
I just said this ,in another post,but I think it bears repeating. I think maybe why you're doing,what you're doing,(the guy thing),is because you're conflicted on your sexuality. And it's okay to be confused. However,having sex with guys,just for the sake of having sex,isn't the best thing to do. I think you need to slow down and give yourself time to decide what it is you want out of a relationship and life,in general. Coming to terms,with your sexuality,especially when it's different than the "norm", is never an easy thing. The only person you have to make happy,is YOU. But just jumping into bed with guys,to figure this all out,is not only foolish,but dangerous,as well. There's pregnancy and stds to consider,here. Not to mention your reputation. Give yourself some time,educate yourself,talk to people,that are like you are, ( there are many here who are or have gone through what you are going through.) We don't judge people here,we try to help them. I'm happy you found EC. It's a great place,with great people. You can get/give advice,vent,rant, have fun and most importantly,just be YOU. Stick around,read some threads, and I'm sure you'll agree. BTW,welcome to the EC family!
you could always be bi slanted towards women, or to men, im not a psychologist but perhaps you just don't see men as anything more than sexual objects (sorry if i read wrong) because of something a man has done to you earlier in your life.
