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  1. whitefang

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    I like this guy and I feel so connected to him. Im attracted to him in every way posible! He thinks I'm cute. I have asked him out and he says no. I dont give up though. He does live in another state. But I told him I didn't care about that.
    I'm falling for him!!
    I told him how I felt bout him....

    What do I do????
     
    #1 whitefang, Jun 9, 2009
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    You have a crush my friend. Sometimes they rock, and sometimes they don't. The guy said no. You can try again, but you may have to face the fact that he is not that into you.
     
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    I have a crush on ur friend??
    I kno but I cant face it. itll hurt.
     
    #3 whitefang, Jun 9, 2009
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    is he straight?
    well this video kinda made me get over mine
    [YOUTUBE]tJNvaY37KD8[/YOUTUBE]
     
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    That video is cool. He has such a masculine voice but such a cute boyish face....i bet he has loads of admirers!
     
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    He said no...
    do nothing.
     
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    Oops clicked enter too early. Damn computer.
    About this guy...I think the others have covered it in a nut shell. He's said no...leave it be. Mate....dont get hung up on a guy who doesnt share the feelings. Its crap falling for someone who just doesnt feel the same back but you just have to clear it from your mind. Dont let it drive you insane.xxx
     
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    Everyone else kinda hit it on the nail here. No means no for the most part.

    If he likes you back, he would have said yes. Unless you think for some reason he said "no" due to a reason like distance or not feeling comfortable in a relationship yet.

    If you are friends with him and you wish to stay friends, just try and not bring it up anymore with him. Friendships last alot longer than most relationships do, so maybe this time its best just to stay friends since he did say no :frowning2:
     
    #8 Greggers, Jun 9, 2009
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    Damn, too late to jump on the band wagon. But like Mich said, no means no.

    (Loving your new pic and hair by the way! (!))
     
    #9 The Enigma, Jun 9, 2009
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    Nothing, except for moving on! :slight_smile:

    You did everything you could. You told him how you feel about him, you have asked him out. What else is there to try? Nothing more. By trying to make something happen with someone who does not want to go out with you, you are only inflicting emotional pain on yourself. By moving on, you will minimize it and open up the possibilities and chances to find someone who wants to go out with you.
     
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    Oh he's cute. =)

    And i'll echo what everyone else said here. It doesn't seem like he's interested in a relationship with you, so stick to friendship. You'll find someone soon. And then you'll have a great boyfriend and a great friend. :slight_smile:
     
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    Well he isnt str8
    But he does like me he told me he does
    I kno u guys said jus stay friends but to me it is much deeper than that
     
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    He knows how you feel, the ball's in his court now. If you keep trying to push the issue, you'll most likely make him feel really uncomfortable and he's likely to back away. You've done all you can, but if he doesn't want a relationship, that's it - you can't make him.
     
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    Me?
     
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    Hi there! For you it is much deeper. But is it for him? From the looks of it, I'll guess no. :slight_smile:

    He might like you and find you cute, but that dose not mean that he wants to go out with you. I like my friends, but that does not mean that I will want to go out with them on dates! There is a big difference between liking someone as a friend and liking someone with whom you go out on a date.

    The other thing you have mentioned is that he lives in another state. Have you actually met in person? Given that he does live in another state, and now unless you guys live within a few blocks of the state borders or have a car, going out is going to be rather difficult.

    You have a friend in him. Try not to ruin that friendship. I know it is hard, but I think it would be best if you would try moving on as best as you can. Spend some more time with your friends and try to remain distracted.
     
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    :frowning2:
    True
    Its jus...
    I cant explain it
    I jus...
     
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    I jus wish I knew exactly how he felt bout me
    and Id like for him to kno wat I really think
     
    #17 whitefang, Jun 9, 2009
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    I know it's not what you want to hear, but I would have to agree that you should try your best to stop now; not because he said no the first time(I'll explain later), but because, among other things, he's in a different state and you're underage. What if he said yes? Things would all be good and wonderful at first but later it would tear you up to not be able to be closer to him.

    As for him saying no and you really can't help yourself, I do think you owe it to yourself to tell him exactly how you feel before giving up. "if only"s and "I wish I had done"s are the worst and it's better to have him say no knowing you did everything you possibly could(within reason) than to not know and regret it.
     
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    Thats true
    But I cant help Trying even harder to go wit him!
    I never give up (Almost never)
    Ive been told to go after wat i want
     
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    like I said, give it your all out best shot then...Once! and then see how it goes
     
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