I had the realization earlier that, my mother doesn't know I'm gay. I thought she did. I told my father and my sisters back almost two years ago. I never straight up told my mom, but I figured someone would have mentioned it by now. But no one's said a word. I don't really want to be the one to tell her. I told the rest of the family, they know. I'm not entirely sure how she'd react. I'm not all that close to her, she doesn't live with us, and I really don't plan on having much of a relationship when I'm older anyway. Should I suck it up and tell her? Or not....I'm not sure what I should do right here.
Hi there! It is really up to you if you want to come out to her. That said, I think it would still be good if you would let her know. Even though your relationship is not as close, I think she should still get the chance to get to know the real you. If your relationship with your mum is not as close and you don't want to be one to let her know, you could always ask a family member if he/she could let your mum know. Maybe talk with your dad and sisters about your plan and see what they say. Think about all the options that you do have, and pick the one that you think is best for you. If you rather not tell her in person, you could also write her a letter and let her know that way. I hope this helps a bit!
Well why dont you want to tell her? I mean if she knows your gay and your not close...whats the harm or is it too akward?
She's very....outspoken. That's putting it nicely. We fight often enough as it is, and this might spark more of that. I'm really not trying to put myself through more shit.
This brings back bad memories of my failed coming out to my mom She is so much denial (yes, even at this point). But I think that if you told other members of your family it's less pressure on you. It's not like she can run to them and say: He's gay!!! They already knew anyways, right?
