Feeling abit lonely

Destined to be alone? Well, I am pretty sure destiny is crap. So you don't have to worry about the fates running around, pushing all the nice guys out of your way. And you are still young. Heck, I'm hella lonely and I hang out almost exclusively with couples.

You know what I did?

I got a cat.
Now, this might not be the best solution for you because you might be allergic, but the point I'm trying to make is that you should try and change it. If you have trouble meeting gay guys who meet you standards, you need to try and join singles groups. Try a sports team or some other group that you would enjoy. Pride isn't the best place to meet people since everyone is in party mode. Most people at pride (from my experience) are only interested in hook-ups.

And if all else fails? Come to EC and chat for awhile. We have your niche ready and waiting to be filled.

Also, get a cat.

 

Definitly hang out on EC more. Join chat, start writing on people's walls, post on some game threads, get to know people. You can make some great friends on EC and it really helps when your only hanging out with straight couples all day.

All my friends are baby-making heteros, and many come in pairs (ew.) so i know what you feel like. It is very lonely. I used to have a dog, and like Corina and her Cat, it REALLY helped me get through the loneliness. But alas, my dog was given away. Having a pet is definitely therapeutic for some people. If you dont have one, you might want to try it out!

Another thing you could try is set up some one on one "dates" with you and a good friend of yours. Go have a movie night with one of your besties, just you and her/him. No couples, no couple talk, just a night of fun with one good friend of yours. Its good sometimes to split the baby making heteros up so you get alone time with just one of them, if not just for the fact people tend to act differently when with there significant other.

 

I have to agree that a Pride Parade doesn't sound like the best way to meet your soul mate - not that it couldn't happen that way. I'm sure somewhere there's a story like that with a happy ending.

As Numfarh suggests, look to meet people other ways. In Toronto there's a group called 'Out and Out' and it's a social club for gays and lesbians and it organizes a wide range of activities for the community. (Hiking, card nights, day trips, etc.) You do have to go out on a limb to meet new people, but it could very well be totally worth it.

I know how you can feel lonely in a crowd of people. I felt that way on Saturday night at the wedding I attended. I was made to feel very welcome and there were lots of people there that I knew. But the only person there that knows I'm gay was my ex wife. Otherwise, it was a huge ballroom full of heterosexual couples (or baby-making hetros as Greggers would say! ) and it was a little depressing. And I have a boyfriend!

So give it time. Get yourself out there. And try to appreciate your friends for what they are. It isn't their fault that they're not gay. They couldn't help it. :icon_wink

 

First off you’re not pathetic. Everyone wants someone in their life. And, you are not destined to be alone. Don’t lump all the bad stuff in life and together and call it fate.

You will meet someone someday. I know what it is like to have friends who got that lucky genetic dice roll and everyone just loves them, but attraction does go deeper then that.

We’ve all met that hottie that made our heart throb, but the minute they opened their mouth you deflated fast then a balloon.

And, ask yourself if you are too picky. Are you only looking for a pretty face and body that looks like it was sculpted by a Grecian stone carver?

You said a few guys talked to you are pride, did you get their numbers?
You’ll never meet anyone if you don’t put yourself out there.

And lastly here is a hug:

(*hug*)