Um... hi. last time i was here i felt down now i am just confused. I got kissed by my lovely girlfriend and well I didn't feel anything. I am asexual so it is kinda normal for me. I am trying to become more understand of what a kiss means. But to me a hug means as much as or more then a kiss. I was wondering do any of you have advice that you could give someone like me on how to be more accepting of a kiss, any kinda of kiss, and has anyone felt like this before?
Hmm. Asexuality us something that I am not familiar with. But if you prefer hugs to kisses, tell you8r partner that! I am sure she will understand, and make a point to hug more!
Is your girlfriend aware of the fact that you are asexual? If not then I would tell her and let her know that you prefer/ get more from cuddles.
I'm quite sure you would get more help here: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?act=idx Good Luck!
Not really, asexuals do not experience sexual attraction but they do feel attraction and they do form relationships. They also can be straight or gay. You can find out more at wikipedia or asexuality.org (I mentioned it above).
Yes i am on that site and have also asked the same question i just want diffrent thoughts on the matter. that is about it.
My husband is asexual and he prefers hugs too. he likes kisses, but small kisses on the ckecks or the lips. Deep-kisses are too related with sexuality for him. If you don't like kisses, the best option is to talk openly about that with your girlfriend. I don't know if you already have told her about you beign asexual, but it is definitly something you should do. She needs to know that your lack of enthusiams is not related to her. And don't force yourself : you may ended being disgusted which is not gonna help. Take care, Eleanor
(*hug*) i think you need one of them i know its hard but i agree with El and everyone else you need a proper talk with her and let her know how you feel. if its emotional bonds your drawn too and not sexual bonds you can try looking at it that the kiss ok doesent do anything for you but think of what it does for her if you focus on making your partner happy and she does the same... it might make it easyer for you to get into things better ( i know i sound like an idiot without a clue its all i can think of atm) take care
