Gay club...?

i know how you feel about going out and it beeing awkward like you dont fit but you will also be out with your friends so it can be fun, sure you will meet people be it just passing or you get chatting you dont have to identify as lesbian you dont have to pounce each other its ok to chat and it may also help you work out how you feel you may find yourself flirting you never know.

i think its good to get out there and experience these things to realise your not alone that there are so many people and its a whle new world to discover sure its scary to begin with but its amaising how soon it jsut becomes a bar or a club there jsut people dancing and drinking...

just have fun with your friends and chat to people

 

I think you should go I haven't been gay clubbing yet, but I do think honesty is definitely your best policy. If someone does ask, "I'm not sure yet" or "I don't know, but I do like girls" are totally acceptable answers. Not everyone who goes gay clubbing is gay - there will be straight people there with friends (like your friend), bi people, and people like you who aren't too sure yet.

 

I don't think the fact you're 100% sure about your sexuality would be relevant to refuse. No one will ask you if you're 100% sure to be gay to allow you entering the club :icon_wink
If someone every esk you about your orientation, you can just answer that you're still wondering.
I think you should go without expecting anything else than having a great time. Don't expect to find a girlfriend on your first time there (you may, but I don't want you to be disapointed if that doesn't happened), but hopefully it will help you to feel more comfortable with yourself.
Have a great time and take care (*hug*)

 

What she said.

In all honesty I normally don't see people asking other people about their orientation. The only times I've had anyone ask me is the rare chance they're interested in me. If you go with her friends, they may ask, and you can simply say "I'm not sure". I went gay clubbing a couple times with friends while I was trying to figure myself out, and they never asked.

I find it like most other clubs where the music is so loud, you don't really have a lot of conversations anyways.

But it's not like a gay only zone, where you must be gay to be welcomed.

And I'm not so big on 'picking up' at the bar, so the only people I meet there are 'friends of friends'

 

I only know of one lesbian club near me, and it's actually more of a coffeehouse. But if lesbian clubs are anything like gay clubs, you can try this.

* Put on a dance mix of a currently semi-popular song with overly-Pro-Tooled vocals. Turn up the volume until you can feel it in your sternum. Then turn it up two notches more.
* Fix yourself a mixed drink. Skimp on the alcohol. Overload it with ice, and water it down just a tad.
* Turn the lights off until you can't see.

You're now at a gay club.

Go. Have a good time. Enjoy people watching. You might see that most people seem more self-assured. That's not because they're better, or more secure - that's because they've been there before, and with their friends. People are much more confident in known surroundings, around known people. Keep your eyes peeled for "solos" - they're the ones with heads cast down, furtively looking around, sipping their drinks. They're much more likely to want someone to approach and chat. So go approach and chat with them.

Lex

 

I don't like clubbing anymore, but I would say go at least once for the experience. If it's anything like a gay club, it should be too loud to really talk to people. The most fun part is watching people be crazy and gay. There are also plenty of straight people at gay clubs, for some reason, so don't worry if you don't know where you fall on the spectrum.

Warning: You'll probably be there very late, like until 2 in the morning. That was my least favorite part of clubbing, next to the dancing part.

 

There's nothing wrong with going. It's just like a standard dance club. I don't think it's an ideal place to meet people, mainly because it's hard to interact with someone when the music's that loud. Feel free to go and check it out, but remember there are plenty of other places and ways to meet other gay people.

Lex

 

Depending on the size of the community and level of organization you could find gay self-help groups, political groups, gay community bands, gay football (soccer) teams, gay swim teams, the list goes on. Finding them can be a small of a challenge but a good place to start would be to find one more general pride organization and it will likely be able to recommend other groups for specific interests. Google is pretty good too.

 

I'm sure your curiosity outweighs your anxiety... so go. :icon_wink

 

Here's my experience and hopefully it helps you feel better.

I was very nervous about going to my first gay dance. Let me tell you, they're quite queer indeed. (in every aspect to the word) Think more pop, more Brittney Spears, Justin Timberlake, and less Hiphop/RB and less bumpin' grindin'. Think funky chicken, macarana, and N'SYNC choreography. Now, make the music ridiculously loud. Add some obnoxious bright lights and darkened room with rainbows out and about.

That's a gay dance.

Dunno about a dance club, but most of the dance's I've been to have been like the above. I'm not used to 'gay' dances, so I was kinda at a loss at times when people were really clubbing, in the sense that I learned how to.

 

You're so not a wales' penis.
:roflmao:

 

The secret is, no one can dance, and no one cares.

 

When I came out I was bullrushed by the GSA at my school. I was totally different from them (jock, wear sweatpants everyday lol) and they wanted to parade me around. And I didn't like it. I am proud of who I am but I feel that they flaunt it and that annoys me. I found much more support from other friends (gay or straight) who were pretty laid back about it. It all depends on

a. the group

b. what you are looking for