my dad

Well, if you are worried about the shock factor, I would just start dropping hints. If you have a shared computer, 'accidentally' leave a gay website up or something. I would just do all the things we see threads going "ahhhhhhh, I ______ and I'm really scared my parents know or think I'm gay, what do I do" about. Then, after a bit, come out to him, it shouldn't be as much of a shock if he has been seeing signs for a while.
I think a letter would also be a good shock reducer. If you take the first few paragraphs to lead up to it, it will ease him into the idea more than you just blurting out "I'm gay".

 

Can you actually shock someone into a heart attack with that kind of news?
I mean i know your situation sucks =(
But i'm genuinely curious if telling him is a risk to his health.
If so then that sucks.

 

You can't shock someone into a heart attack. Well, maybe if you push him off a cliff or something, but not with an "I'm gay" comment.

If you're 19, and if you haven't been dating girls too much, he may be somewhat prepared...

Lex

 

There is always that risk, but sometimes parents just need some time to adjust to the fact that you are different.

 

Well just let him know.
If he doesn't believe you does it matter?
You're out, he can believe it or not.
I mean do you plan on telling your dad "I like Micheal and he's so cute and he does this thing with this hair that makes me melt"
If so then he needs to believe you, if not then you're just letting him know in case you bring a boy home one day. and that day he'll believe you.
*shrug*
Good Luck Though!!
=)

 

Try to find a moment to be alone with him and told him you've got something important to tell him. And just do it.
I don't think you could give him an heart attack telling him you're gay.
You might also tell your dad that your mother knows but doesn't believe you.

I hope everything will go fine. Let us know. (*hug*)

 

>>>but what if he reacts the same way as my mom did and he doesn't believe me?

Then you've done what you can. You told him. If he chooses not to believe it, for whatever reason, that's his business.

Lex

 

I think telling him that you are gay shouldnt cause any medical problems. Youre 19 years old, and you should come out to everybody. It is a great feeling!

Good luck, im sure it will be just fine!

Erik

 

Drop hints, tell him "I am gay, but I don't want to be!" and cry. Then he'll be sympathetic and love you more because it will show that it's not a choice (it's not). Then he won't get angry because you really don't want to be gay and he'll just start crying with you rather than get shock.

Do this if you know he isn't going to try to change you though.

 

Well then maybe tell him in a calm way.. Like don't get all excited, angry or depressed, just say it calm and relaxed and it should be OK.
But if you don't feel it's right to then don't.

 

>>>Drop hints, tell him "I am gay, but I don't want to be!" and cry. Then he'll be sympathetic and love you more because it will show that it's not a choice (it's not).

Or he'll sign you up for an anti-gay program.

Lex

 

Some of my advice sucks I know, it's like I'm being manipulative in everything i do.

It depends on who you're working with though, I need to know more information, since my advice usually works for myself in my situations.

 

I don't think that's why. (*hug*)

 

you could just watch a shot at love with tila tequila all the time and when your dad asks why be like "i'm bi, identify with her" really nonchalant. :lol:

 

just tell him. sit him down, one on one, and tell him. if he loves u, he wont care. or at least, he wont go into cardiac arrest. plus, if hes in such bad shape, then what makes u think this will destroy him? i think his health is a bit more precident then finding out your sexuality. what i mean is, if he has such health issues, then it may actually give him a greater out look on life and things u think hed consider bad, he wont. if that makes sence...

 

Good luck. Don't forget he'll have had only a few minutes to have "gotten used to the idea", whereas you've had years. So don't be freaked out by "dumb questions". Try to stay calm and answer them in an adult manner.

Lex

 

*keeps his fingers crossed

I'm sure everything will turn out fine! Good luck!