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Old 24th Jul 2009, 06:00 AM   #1
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What do you guys usually do to mend a broken heart?

I have been crying for two days over someone it should have been clearly obvious wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 06:13 AM   #2
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Write about it and vent your frustration, go to a movie, go out with a friend who will listen.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 07:11 AM   #3
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-Music about moving on.
-Going out with people as much as possible.
-Talking about it to your friends.

That's what i do.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 08:40 AM   #4
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Sometimes over stimulating the sad gland in my brain works. Get a box of tissues, watch sad move, listen to sad songs, read sad love stories. Your brain will get to a point where it says: “Enough! I’m going to feel sad anymore. Let’s feel something else.”
This works for me, hope it works for you too.

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Old 24th Jul 2009, 08:50 AM   #5
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 09:21 AM   #6
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1. Listen to music. Lots of music. Pick some songs about moving on, and a few sad ones you can identify with. Message me if you need some suggestions... I have loads for every type of mood.

2. Intense exercise. Running with the music all the way up (again I can give you good running playlist suggestions) and your whole world reduces to the bass line, your feet on the pavement, the breath in your lungs. It is my #1 fail-proof head-clearer. If that's not your style, lifting or ab workouts is also always good.

3.Write a letter you'll never send. Write it to someone you trust completely, and just let it out.

Stay strong sweetie. Broken hearts suck. In the end, time is the ultimate healer. So try to focus on other things, use some of the aforementioned suggestions to clear your head, and in time you will start to let go of the person. You will get through this
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 11:20 AM   #7
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I eat ben and jerry's listen to depressing songs watch chick flick's and shout at them and then cry this way i can get it all out in a big cliche' way

A broken heart can be the worst thing in the world because it's hard to heal and can take awhile but eventually you learn to deal and move on don't worry things will work out im sure
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 12:45 PM   #8
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yeh good music, movies, mates. Eventually things will look up, you just need to give it time
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 03:20 PM   #9
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Since you like music and dancing, maybe Roxy Music "Dance the Night Away" Listen to it, Live it!
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 03:41 PM   #10
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I have few friends, no job or money atm, and have parents who claim I owe them all this money and need to work to pay it back.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 07:19 PM   #11
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Try to keep busy. If you are not working, volunteer at a food bank or a shelter. When I am stress I work out. I put on the Ipod and its 'me' time. I feel a lot better working up a sweat and getting the endorphins flowing.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 07:45 PM   #12
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Read.
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Sleep.
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Old 24th Jul 2009, 09:39 PM   #13
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i eat ice crean and listen to music and want to be by myself
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Old 25th Jul 2009, 02:51 AM   #14
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I'm kinda getting over something to.
I kinda just like keep myself busy, talk about it with anyone I can talk about it with [actually no one for me haha] of course whenever I'm not busy it kinda creeps back into my head, but it's like a rollercoaster because like you can see the positive in it eventually it'll be like a war in your head for a while until you just get over it.
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Go talk with your seksy friends and laugh about it. When i was heartbroken i was usually that kid that spaced out looking beyond the window in french class with my palm under my jaw and the teacher would be yelling at me from across the room, "Max pay attention!" Then when everyone would be writing Salut! Ca Va? Ca va bien merci, i would be scribbling.... ah memories..
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Old 25th Jul 2009, 07:35 AM   #16
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time- it sucks but that is what will heal the heart, time.
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Mal's right. Time's the only cure. Everything else may ease the symptoms, but won't get you over it any faster. It helps to have something to focus on, though.

>>>I have few friends, no job or money atm, and have parents who claim I owe them all this money and need to work to pay it back.

Might I suggest focusing on this? Work on looking for a job and making new friends.

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