I wasn't quite sure where to put this, so mods feel free to move it if you feel it's in the wrong section... I have been thinking about the way I see people from a sexual perspective recently. This has primarily been brought about by the fact that I now have a new boyfriend that I really like a lot. Until this boy came around I was quite certain I was gay, and yet even though we are now together in a heterosexual relationship that I am genuinely invested in, that hasn't really changed. One thing I have figured out over the past year or so is that it takes me a long time to fall for someone. I have to get to know them first and develop a level of friendship. Then, once I start to fall, I fall fast. I would say I have totally fallen for two girls in my life. The first time was far worse and it ended up tearing me to shreds. The second was slightly less intense but I also stopped seeing her on a daily basis right as I was really getting myself into trouble, although it still hurt me considerably. The thing that I have realized about both of these is that I crush on someone emotionally far before it becomes a physical attraction. I tend to be far more attracted to the personalities of girls, and I find the female form much more attractive physically. Yet I am discovering that I may in fact have the capacity to feel similarly about a boy with a good personality and who is just generally a really sweet guy, such as my boyfriend. So maybe I'm pansexual after all? For now I am just going with the flow. I have lots of time to figure it all out. However I was just wondering if anyone else feels this way or has had a similar experience? My understanding of pansexuality is that it is an attraction to emotion over physical form, but I am wondering if perhaps there is more to it I am missing?
Well from what you've said you've seem to explored your sexuality and are reaching what seems to be a very reasonable end. That is essentially the gist of pansexuality.
And there was me thinking pansexuality was to fall for animal vegetable or mineral! What I thought silentsound had described is bisexuality, no?
my understanding is that bisexuality is having a complete physical/emotional attraction to both sexes, so physical attraction plays a greater role right off the bat. Pansexuality on the other had focuses more on the personality of a person. Like the way I am thinking right now: I find girls far more physically attractive, however I believe I have the capacity to harbor similar feelings for a boy because personality is more important and in time physical attraction becomes a function of emotional attraction. I am not saying that bisexuals only think about physical attraction or anything, but that is how I understand the difference. Anyone care to elaborate/ correct me?
