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Hmm, I'm personally more inclined to think you're gay from what you've told us.
I love the male physical body and male personalities, but there are some female personalities you just fall in love with. It's normal.

I'm not a fan of experimentation, unless the other person wants to experiment too.

I've said this to a few other people, it'll eventually click with you on what you are. Just try to keep in there and don't try to think about it too much because it'll just make it harder and more confusing for you.

 

Hi! Welcome to EC Haha... you "can't think straight"! Sorry... it's funny. Anyway, I understand how you feel and I am sure many other people on EC do too. I am also going through this "I think I'm gay but I don't want to come out cos what if I'm wrong?" thing. It's not fun, but I hear it gets better You say you would like to figure out your sexuality soon... I know it's frustrating but try not to pressure yourself or set time limits. Things will work out when they are ready to. In the mean time, don't drive yourself crazy about it. It's great that you have started to think about this now, and have joined EC. Good start! I think it is important to wait until you feel comfortable with yourself before coming out. That's where I stand at the moment. I really want to tell people, but I'm still scared incase I've got it wrong. I think if you're unsure it's good to wait. Having said that, if you have a friend you can confide in that can be really helpful. Your parents may be hard to tackle - try not to worry about them now. Worry about you first. When you feel comfortable and happy then it will be easier to tell them.

Sorry my answer is probably a bit all over the place... I am usually too scared to answer these things.

 

honestly i'd say ur bisexual, that or you'd prolly be more interested in a really enfemenite (i know i butcher'd that word something fierce) guy. my view on bisexuality is prolly really different than most other people. you say your sexually attracted to guys but you find yourself more emotionally/personally attracted to women.

So it sounds like you want a little bit of column A little bit of column B, i'd say try looking at shemale or transgender porn and see if the whole girl with a penis thing does anything for you. Cause if you are attracted to them i'd say go for either a Tgirl or a feminen guy. but i think you might be bisexual

 

First of al, welcome to EC!

I'd say that figuring out for yourself and actually coming out are two distinct things. And especially the problematic cases (of which your mom might be one) are better left until you have had a few other coming outs. Feeling as if you might possibly be straight after all is pretty normal. I know I had it before coming out. That dreading feeling that just the day after coming out, I would wake up suddenly straight, and then having to explain it. But that never happened...

As for figuring out your own orientation, the kind of porn you watch tends to be a good indication of what you're into sexually (every so often, I watch at straight porn and go "nope, still doesn't do anything for me"). And sex seems to be a part of most relationships.

As for who you're attracted to emotionally: do you feel attracted to girls' personalities in a way that you want to hang out with them a lot? Or in the sense that, were it not for the sex, you could see yourself share a life with them? Being gay doesn't entail running away screaming from women, so liking them a lot is still permitted :icon_wink

Experimenting through dating does seem like a surefire way of hurting yourself or others. Does your uni have a GLBT group that you could join (or go to a meeting or somesuch)? Or are there any parties for GLBT people being organised? I'm sure that meeting other GLBT people could be enlightening, and they would probably be accepting if you introduced yourself as still questioning. Most have been there at one point or another. Talking to other GLBT people and seeing how much experiences we shared and how they understood what I was going through is what helped me lots, in any case...

 

Heres something you really need to look at. Gay, straight.... no there is more Gay1 2 3 4 5 6straight. Now i'd place you about where i placed myself when i thought of it this way. maybe more of a 2 i think im more 2.5. You have to realize there is a larger range of sexual orientation than just gay straight bisexual etc. I myself find myself more easily attracted to men physically but more easily attracted to women emotionally. However finding a women i think is hot requires some very serious good looks. I am probably much more likely to find a relationship with a guy than girl but if a decent looking girl asked me to go out i'd say yes. I like making out with girls i'm good with going out with either. If you are comfortable going out with a girl or a guy and can feel emotionally and physically attracted to both you are bisexual leaning maybe more one way than the other.
Coming out and determining for yourself are two different things. Figure out what defines your ability to have a relationship with either sex. I'd say go for a relationship with one of those girls and see if you like it. But make sure that the girl does have something that attracts you to her first, wether its personality looks etc. There is nothing wrong with exploring yourself like that imo

edit: and remember when it comes down to it REAL family and friends will support you and love you no matter what. You where the exact same person the second before you told them you where gay/bisexual you no different than you have always been. And there is nothing wrong with that, it is who you are and imo who you always have been. People are born that way as far as i'm concerned.

 

maybe you just havent met a guy whose personality you are really attracted to yet...? If possible, go along to a glbt social or support group and just talk through your situation, making it very clear how you feel. Im sure you would be very welcome, even though youre still questioning.

although im no expert, and only you can say for sure, im inclined to say that you are gay... basically the porn indicates to me. but dont feel the need to label yourself. you dont have to be one thing or the other, its a spectrum ^ And theres no hurry to figure it out. If girls ask you out, just make it clear that you are not looking for a relationship at the moment. And lastly, although i absolutely hate people who say this to me, dont worry

 

Hi there, and welcome to EC.

I don't think many straight guys wonder if they're gay. You've been wondering for 7 years! I think it's time you gave yourself a break and accept that you're gay. Let it soak in. You don't need to tell anyone at all - any time soon. But you need to let yourself be 'ok' with it. Once that starts to happen, you'll want to tell other people.

How to feel OK about it? Hanging out here is a good way to do that. I found EC really helpful when I was coming to terms with being gay. I'm sure you'll find it helpful too.

Good luck!

 

Try coming out as "YOU". No label needed. Just be open that the person you are hanging out with is fun and attractive to you. The rest will take care of itself.