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Just a Little Rant (CAUGHT)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Glunn11, Jul 27, 2009.

  1. Glunn11

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    Hey everyone,
    I figured this would be a great place to rant about my day. So, I was looking at porn with my door closed, which I have been doing for a long time, when my dad storms in. Even when someone does that, I can generally react fast enough (I like to consider myself a professional in closing windows or moving them on top of each other), but for some reason I wasn't able to. In a rather stern voice, he tells me that I had to delete all of it or I'd lose my computer. I said ok and then he yelled "NOW!"

    What really pisses me off about the whole situation is that he's an avid porn watcher. Every morning. If I'm on the computer late at night, I can see when he boots up Windows Media Player, and I have seen his history. I don't get along with my dad at all, but this really peeved me. I don't know if he noticed it was gay porn or not -- his sight is terrible.

    Anyways, just wanted to get that off my chest.
     
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    That sucks - especially the double standards.

    I dont think I have ever been caught - probably been drunk a few times though and left it running but I doubt anyone came into my room.
     
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    hypocrisy is obviously alive and well D:

    whenever my mom or dad are home, I never even bother to open anything suspicious 'cus I know they don't know what "privacy" is, I swear, I think I need a lock on the door -sigh-

    porn hasn't really done much for me, I prefer looking at pictures, I have a shitload saved on a password-protected folder and I'm satisfied with that :slight_smile:

    I'm sorry that happened, but just like I said above, a lock may do you wonders...
     
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    Thanks for the replies~

    As to the lock suggestion, my door is like... a fake door. I think it's made out of laminated cardboard. LOL.
    My parents are always home, as well. I'm pretty much a master with my hearing to determine where they both are at a given time. I'm usually better when the door is open, though, but this incident has definitely shot my confidence.

    A bi friend of mine and I share a "WIN" folder that contains a lot of hunky boys. So, that will at least be some eye candy. :grin:
     
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    I think it's one of those "do as I say, not as I do" kinda things.

    I don't know about you, but that kind of argument I've never won. Not even to this day.
     
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    If he didn't get a good look at the porn you were watching... then if he brings it up again, you should say, "sorry I just clicked on it in your history.. and one thing led to another"


    :lol:
     
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    Delete the porn.

    After you've backed it up.

    Lex
     
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    Rearrange your room. Put the computer on the same wall with the door. That'll at least buy a few more seconds to get stuff minimized before it's spotted. Say that you needed a bit of a change of decor.
     
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    That's embarrassing for any type of porn.

    Next time why don't you have porn of Jenna Jameson to see what he saids, like let him walk in the room and see a nude of Jenna Jameson.

    See if he's really using double standards, or just no porn.

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    Then again, its an opportunity to come out, if you aren't already!
     
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    This.... just a brilliant comeback :eusa_clap
     
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    like some others said, wait for parents to be gone or whatever, rearranging the room is a great idea. Also the password protected folder. I've never been caught and i've pulled off come risky missions >_> hahaha but then again i also have a lockable door and have the excuse of a very annoying younger brother i want to escape xD. One thing i did was have a game or like a half written story in word ready to pull up over it. It is nerve racking to have a homophobic dad looking at your AP euro outline when behind it is a bunch of porn XD
     
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    Of course, if you wanted to be a bit ballsier about it, you could always just say something to the effect of, "Fuck you, I'll delete my porn when you delete yours."
     
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    LOL. Ah, precious.

    He's dropped the issue. Yesterday I felt like I was pretty much trapped in my room because I didn't want to confront him. But, I think I'm ok for the time being.

    Thanks for all the suggestions :slight_smile:
     
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    Well, to be fair (gosh, I'm going to get so much flack for this), I'm assuming you're a minor. If that's the case, a minor in possession of pornography can be prosecuted as a misdemeanor. If it wasn't illegal, they wouldn't require ID to buy it, or wrap it in black protectors, or sell it only in certain shops. Even though it is online porn, it's still images of nudity. As a parent, he has something of a duty to protect his children from 'mature' things like porn and alcohol and drugs until they are legally adults and can make those choices for themselves.

    Now, that being said... it sucks that he caught you, lol. I'm sure most of us have been in a similar situation. Now, if he continues to do this after you're 18, then it's hypocrisy. Until then... it's parenting. Sucks, but it's true. :lol:
     
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    Oh, don't worry. I won't flame you for that. In fact, I agree with you. My dad and I just have never gotten along. I don't see him as really having any authority over me, and I just sort of giggle inside when he tries to be a parent every once in a while.

    But, the event has certainly traumatized me quite well. It's kind of set me into an asexual mood.
     
  17. bob4carl09

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    Yeah, this is one of those situations that sucks, completely hypocritical and I doubt you're the only teen male in your neighbourhood, but as people have said above, be careful. I'm a firm believer in choosing my battles very carefully, and this one isn't a winner.

    So play his game, or at least make him think you are. And remember, alt-tab and a draft english report are your friends :grin: