trying to forget about somone

Usually, if I *know* they are straight, the crush just seems to go away. No point pining after a love thats totally one way. If I only suspect but am not sure, I don't mind stringing my stupid brain along because it lets the imagination run wild during those lonely, ahem, sessions at night. Oddly, I don't seem to dream about people i fancy, which kindof annoys me.

Dunno if that helps much, but it works for me.

 

Not exactly the same situation, but I've spent the past year trying to forget my first 'girlfriend', a girl who never committed to me but expected me to put up with her sleeping around and wait for her to come back to me. The best thing for me has been to cut her off - delete her from my Facebook, get rid of my photos of her, block her from MSN, and try not to think about her. I also looked around and specifically looked for girls I thought were cute - not to jump into a relationship, but more so that I could make myself realise that there were other girls in the world, who weren't bitches. If you have a queer youth group in your area or something, I'd try going to that - it could help you knowing that there are gay guys your age around, and he's not the only attractive person in the world. Good luck (*hug*)

 

What did he do that made u suspicious??

 

I was/am in the same situation as Maddy and I've deleted/thrown away everything that's related to him. He stole my fucking PSP so its not easy to forget him.

As for you, you probably have to find out if he's gay or straight. If he's straight then you just have to forget about him or at best, become friends. If he's gay then hopefully it won't be unrequited love. Otherwise, you just have to find someone else.

But then again you say you like in a small town so its gonna be hard to find others so maybe you can make online friends here first until college or something... Some members here are from small towns and they seem very active online.

 

You've spent a lot of time thinking about him. And now that time is "unoccupied". You can't let it sit vacant. You have to fill it with something. Get out there. Get social. Meet up with friends, get a new hobby, clean your room, take up a new sport, whatever.

Lex

 

While I agree with Lex, he is pretty smart, I understand where you are coming from. Sometimes when you wake up you could swear you feel that warm body next to you, but id just turns out to be a pillow. Those eyes slip into your mind. You remeber that body spray he used to use, and how damn sexy he smelled wearing it.
Crushes are tough, but given time you can work through them.

 

Totally agree with the previous posts, go out there and find someone to just have fun with. Thinking too much about someone you can't be with isn't healthy, just try and take your mind off of things by trying to enjoy time with the people that do love and can be with you!

 

It is so frustrating isn't it? To be absolutely taken by someone and for them to not even know how deeply you feel and to be scared to tell them, especially when you know you will be shot down. It sounds as though he might be teasing you a bit. Maybe he does know and likes to play with you? Or maybe it is genuinely innocent...I don't know. Either way I'd suggest you wean yourself off him and to be honest it will just take a lot of will power...I don't think there is a special secret!

 

he can deep throat and gave u a back massage when u were alone together in a classroom??well i don't blame u for questioning his sexuality, but if he says he is straight then i guess its best to move on, and yeh a good way is just going out with mates, sports etc just keeping busy really, it will take ure mind off him, but it does take time!

 

Idk i mean if I know the love is one sided then i usually just start to lose feelings for them. But every once in a while my mind drifts back to them and i have to remember that i gave up on him. The only time i really have trouble is when i am trying to get over an ex.

 

Ug I wish I could dream about crushes.... my dreamms are far to realistic... like I don't dream I can fly I dream i'm falling physics and all... if its not likley to happen its not in my dream..... but I think in this situation if you can't let go, then wait entill you find another...

 

*SIGH* yeah...:icon_sad:

 

First things first. Release ALL the emotions that you keep inside. Vent it out. Punch a pillow. Just get rid of every frustration you have inside of you. Then, try keeping yourself busy. By the end, you`ll be too bothered, or too tired to think about him.