hot girl/guy threads - should NEVER have looked!

What about normal, everyday people?

 

I agree with Joey. The photos of celebrities and models in those threads don't really represent real people - obviously they are real people, but you know what I mean. The people you meet at work or out with your friends or wherever aren't posing under lights with tons of makeup and then having all their flaws Photoshopped out, and there's so much about a person that you can tell (and find attractive) when they're moving around and talking and real. Not being attracted to photos of models and the like doesn't mean you're not attracted to anyone.

 

Yeah, I'll third Joey and Maddy, here. I contribute to the Hot Girl Game a lot, but honestly? A good portion of the photos other people post (of women I don't know) don't do much for me beyond, "Oh, she's pretty!" I don't see them and instantly want to jump her bones.

I find that the ones I like the best are the ones whose work I'm familiar with - if I've heard her music, seen her in a movie, or got an autograph from her, then a picture actually excites me because I make those connections. "Omg, she's hot and she's so talented! I love her!" If I see a picture of a pretty girl, but have no idea who she is? Usually I just say, "Oh, she's cute!" and move on.

But there's so much more to a person than what they look like in a photo! I used to worry that I couldn't possibly really like women, because I didn't like pinup calendars (which are aimed at the young, straight boy crowd). But then, I'd be around actual women in person, and those questions would fly out the window. I love a woman's laugh, the way she moves, when she makes me laugh, the way she smells, love it when she's passionate about something... These are things you lose when you take a picture, and unless you know something about the subject, as a person? You just have a 2D approximation of them. I wouldn't judge your sexuality based on whether or not you like a flat piece of paper (or... pixels in this case).

Because a boyish girl is not actually a boy, maybe? I find masculine girls sexy, too, yet somewhere in my mind I can't turn off the, "She is a girl! =D" sensor. I don't know what it is, either. For some reason, I find boyishness more exciting in girls than actual boys. I have no idea why! I'm sure there are a bunch of essays examining exactly this sort of thing, haha. But you're not alone there. Butch girls = hawt.

Also, you don't have to want to jump every woman you see to be attracted to women! Maybe you just aren't a horndog. =P

And yes, I'm where you are, in that I've never actually done anything with another woman. So I know how the mental runaround and all the "but what if I'm not?"s swirling around your head is. But just going on gut reactions, if you say that sleeping with a guy doesn't appeal to you, but a girl does? That's a good indicator, I'd say.

Does holding hands with a girl appeal to you? Kissing a girl? Having a girlfriend? If it gives you some sorta warm fuzzies, or makes you excited, or just makes you smile or feel good, I don't think there's a need to question yourself every step of the way. Here is a case where it's probably better to just go with your gut. If your first reaction is, "Yes," you don't need to go, "Yes, but..." It's the "but" that'll wear you out from thinking. You don't have to doubt your conclusion when you pass a girl that you know is pretty but you aren't into her! That will bring you nothing but woe, take it from someone who's been there. =P

And if you do, in the end, figure out you aren't into girls and you were straight as a board all along? Then hey, you'll have yourself figured out! And are probably a lot more familiar with yourself than most people are. =)

LONG POST IS LONG: Basically, don't stress over it, and like who you like! Easier said than done, but it feels better in the long run.

I feel ya, hon. I hope you get yourself figured out! <3

 

GhostDog, you said everything I was going to say and everything I would have said if I could have thought of it. Thanks for saving me the effort!

P.S. I especially agree with the fact that butch girls = HAWT!!!

 

im bi and i find some butch girls very attractive and then i say "why do they have to be gay" hahahahaha

 

Maybe you need an emotional connection IRL to like a girl.

 

...So? I haven't found anyone attractive for like, a year? I mean I've been pretty asexual for ages but that doesn't mean I'm destined to be like that forever, it's just one of those down-times, if you know what I mean. Besides, some of those photos are way over-airbrushed. I prefer real people.

 

I hardly ever ogle hot guys in the generic sense of the term. I'm much more attracted to personalities than looks, and I'm far more likely to look at written erotica than porn online. Just the way I'm wired, I guess.

Lex

 

hey, the same goes for me
I highly dislike porn and I find it ridiculous at times

but reading a good fanfic is always a bonus for me

 

They don't really do it for me either. I like everyday guys.