You see I have had two boyfriends and both ended with me getting a broken heart. Now I would really like to find a nice man/woman who I can have a meaningful relationship with. It's just my last two weren't that great. My first one was so nice in the beginning but after a couple of weeks he started asking me for sex. I never did, but it shocked me. I kept telling him no but he wouldn't stop bugging me. And the worst part was that he would flirt with my friends when i was standing right next to him. And he would still flirt with my friends when i was inside getting help from my teachers. I just couldn't believe it. We eventually broke up. Sort of. He wanted to go on break because he was still in love with someone else when he asked me out. I told him it was okay if we broke up. But the fact he just couldn't say "I think we shouldn't go out anymore." I would've been like "okay." But then we ended hating eachother. And i won't go into how that happened. My 2nd just wouldn't even call me. So my experiences sucked. I am just too afraid to go into another relationship because i don't want to get hurt again. What should I do?
Getting your heart broke is a part of life that seems like nobody avoids. It just happens. You can't really avoid relationships because you are afraid of getting hurt. What you can do is figure out what you learned from these past two relationships. Then you will know what you don't want in a new relationship or maybe there were qualities in these people that you did like too. Remember the good times and move on. We wouldn't know true happiness if we didn't ever feel pain, right?
Those past experiences are life's way of knocking you down, just keep your chin up! There's someone out there for everybody.
I think about the only way to mitigate facing that kind of hurt (you can never totally avoid it, sadly) is to really figure out for yourself what you're looking for in a partner and then be intelligently picky about who you get involved with. What I mean by "intelligently" picky is that it's really easy to be super-picky--finding fault with people is not that hard if you put your mind to it. So you have to figure out what are total "no way" traits and what are "I could probably handle that if there were some positives to balance it out." But avoiding heartache? The only way to do that is to not get involved with anyone ever again, which is not a good option.
You see, it's life , bad, dumb things can happen, and what you need to do is to kick those memories out of your mind and move on, if you cant move on, and linger to teh bad pasts, you'll be hitting the bottom But thru those bad experienecs, you have learned lots of things, and can make your new relationship becomes better But like Joey said, i fyou dont wnat to invole in love, you'll be lonely and alone
Love can be a bitch. I know, I got dumped Friday night. Via IM. But, I still think it's totally worth it. It's like a roller coaster. A relationship can lift you to dizzying highs, but can also plunge you into the terrifying lows. But, if you find the right someone, you get far more dizzying highs than terrifying lows, and the dizzying highs are so worth it.
My mom has had 5 men in her life including my father that have been good to her in the beginning,but all turned bad on her and left her suffering,that was all throughout 18 yrs,and now she has finally(hopefully)found that one person to be with her and to treat her right.So you never know when or how long it will be until you find someone that won't hurt,lie,or mistrust you.Lets hope it works out and that this example helps you!
