Ok so basically my brothers and i have been trying to reconnect with our dad after leaving him for 2 years for being an abusive asshole. Anyways he had been trying to call me an i had been ignoring the calls cause i was nervous about when i was going to tell him about myself. Anyways so we went to his house today for a cook out and he asked me why i hadn't been answering the phone and i told him i had something on my mind. He then set up that we where gonna go practice for my driving test tomorrow and get dinner so i could tell him what was bothering me. Basically i am stuck in a corner where i feel i need to tell him. But i am nervous as hell and idk the best way to go about it :help::bang::help::icon_sad::bang:
If you feel the need to do it, and you feel it's the right time- go for it! Just tell him whenever it feels best while youre with him. You'll know when the moments right. Good luck and I hope all goes well! (*hug*)
the fact that he's concerned and wants to know is a good sign. And the fact that you seem comfortable with the idea of telling him is also an indication that it will probably be fine. The one thing I'd be a little concerned about is your characterization of him as an "abusive asshole." Often, people become abusive or violent when they feel out of control, and it is possible that he will view his son being gay as something out of his control. You know him, so you would be the best judge, but if you haven't considered that issue, I would.
Good luck Austin if your really so nervous maybe a letter or you could just jump in at the deep end and get it over with
Well I know this is a tough thing, but if there's anything that can "test" whether you can create a good relationship with your dad again, coming out to him certainly would. Good luck Austin, you know we have your back
and... you can bring that letter with you for the dinner, and if you can't literally say what you have to, you have the letter you can give him
