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i just dont know what to do...parents? i mean rly. WTF?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by fallendream, Aug 26, 2009.

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  1. fallendream

    fallendream
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    heres an msn conversation i had;
    Lewis says:
    JOE JOE JOE GUESS WHAT!!!!!!!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    whut?
    Lewis says:
    im gunna be a dad!!!!!!!!
    OMG!!!!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    i dont believe you
    Lewis says:
    OMFG!!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    who with?
    Lewis says:
    u bum!!!!!!!!!!! i am!!!! me n katie ****!!!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    who? i dont know that
    Lewis says:
    NVM!!!!! BUT I GNA BE A DAD!!!!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    when did you do 'it'?
    Lewis says:
    last time we wo together, we broke up, but we are back together now!!!
    'tis joe. says:
    yeah but like how long ago?
    Lewis says:
    twas bout a wEek or a bit mre a fink. y?
    'tis joe. says:
    because she wont know till its been a month...i think.
    Lewis says:
    no u bum, not if she went to a clinic
    'tis joe. says:
    are you happy and are you gunna keep it?
    Lewis says:
    very and yes
    'tis joe. says:
    who have you told?
    Lewis says:
    umm. you. and no one. y?
    'tis joe. says:
    dont tell anyone for a few weeks
    incase there was a mistake or a miscarraige
    Lewis says:
    oh ok
    'tis joe. says:
    you not SUPPOSED to tell people anyway
    but its upto you.
    just...wow.
    lewis says:
    ok i asked how she knows she pregnant, she sed when we had sex she was due her p in a wEek, she missed it and took a test

    there was some less relevent stuff.


    did i do right? or what can i do? or what am i meant to do?

    me and lewis have been through alot together but i dont know if i should try and persuade him to get her to have an abortion or what =/
     
    #1 fallendream, Aug 26, 2009
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    Your age?
     
    #2 Shevanel, Aug 26, 2009
  3. fallendream

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    yes. hes a few months younger than me but hes 14 aswell. and hes offered me godfather-ness =/.
     
    #3 fallendream, Aug 26, 2009
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    He may be a good friend, but I wouldn't say it's really your place to persuade him into having an abortion, that's between him and the girl.

    I would say sit down and talk (face to face, not over IM) about it, make sure he understands what a huge responsibility raising a child is, especially for someone who is still in school (I'm assuming he's the same age as you, roughly).
     
    #4 kettleoffish, Aug 26, 2009
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    Well it is a decision that is really between them. You could help them by letting them know that being a parent is a huge responsibility, even more so when they are both only 14 years old. Just let them know that you'll be there for them and would like to help them in any way you can. One of the things they'll need the most is a good friend that will stick by them, many teen parents get rejected by fellow students and even some adults at school, so they ought to be happy to know they have you to turn to for emotional support.
     
    #5 Black Cat, Aug 26, 2009
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    What the hell. This is not your place to mention anything about abortion. However if you must mention adoption, but this is their place to talk about it, not yours at all.
     
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    jack, i wouldnt force it down his throat unless it was the best possible answer. i mean. how can they look after a child properly if they're not much older?
     
    #7 fallendream, Aug 26, 2009
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    I'm against abortion completely, and it's not his friend place to advise it. Perhaps his friends parents should be the only one in this position and the girls parents.

    I'm more for adoption and maybe the parents don't mind helping.
     
    #8 Jack2009, Aug 26, 2009
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    That is a tough situation dude! I mean he should definitely tell someone, pregnancy is nothing to kid about. All you can do is just be there for your friend really! A good friend is one that will weather any storm for you!
     
    #9 techie01, Aug 26, 2009
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    i think they r too young. if it were my kid, id give it up for adoption.
     
    #10 Alex19, Aug 26, 2009
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