i told my mum im gay a little over a year ago but she wouldnt believe me and the first person outside my family i told he was great about it but he seemed shocked. i think the fact that im very str8 acting seems to make my mum not believe it. so does any one have any ideas on how to get my mum to believe that iam gay
remember that she's going to be in denial for a while, since it's a shock for a parent to learn that their child is homosexual. try to give her some time to sort things out, but be sure not to force the topic. as for getting a boyfriend, yeah that will prove it, but it might just shock her more and she might not react the way you want her to. so be calm, and if she accepts you, then try to not bring up the topic.
I don't think there's anything you can do if someone insists on being stuck in denial. You just have to live your life as authentically as you can.
I guess her idea of being gay is the cliche gay queen. i dont know what to say, other than if she cant accept it then you just gotta leave it for now. if it is really iimportant to you that she understands and you really want to, then perhaps you gonna have to throw it in her face and do some of the things above. but dont hurt her. she probably just doesn't understand. that is all. she is so used to guiding you through childhood and being the one with all the answers, that you saying that you are gay has just thrown her. the difference between the relative innocence of age 12 and age 18 is only 6 years, and a lot of growing up has been done. give her a bit of space and ease her into the idea in a way that she can accept it. just get on with it for now.
i dont have to prove anything to anyone i just thought i would give her the oppertunity of knowing who her son is. i guess she will know when i introduce this guy im in love with to her
I've had the same problem with my friend at school, now whenever we meet its an awkward silence followed by "your not actually Gay are you?" it is so frustrating!! ---------- Post added 22nd Sep 2015 at 12:24 AM ---------- I have respect that you can tell your parents though I live in a religious family saying that it was intended for a man and a woman
When I first told my mother I was Gay she said as long as you are happy that's all that counts. Then she avoided the issue. Slowly I started to introduce my happiness into our conversations and she realized I was truly happy by being Out. Now it's not an issue at all and in fact she updates me on the other Gay family members and what they are doing. I get the biggest kick out of the fact that my mother gives me the "Family Gay Gossip ". In short, give her some time, she'll come around. ---------- Post added 21st Sep 2015 at 12:28 PM ---------- As far as convincing others, change your Facebook Cover Photo to a picture of you with in a lip lock some dude, that should get your point across.
