I have decided that I WILL come out to my close group of friends sometime in the near future. I've told a bunch of people so far (including my immediate family, some friends, and even some strangers), and I know that if I want to be officially "out," I'm going to have to tell them. This is possibly the most important (and terrifying) coming out I've ever planned to do, probably second only to telling my parents. But it's really important to me, and I've resolved to take a deep breath, abandon my insecurities, and just do it. See, though, I don't know how it's going to happen. When I realized I was gay I planned to come out on a case-by-case basis, but I don't think it'll work here. My friends are a pretty tight-knit group, most of them all being friends with each other, and news tends to spread like a forest fire if it's even slightly leaked. Basically, if I tell one person, it's almost inevitable for everyone else to find out, too (I AM in high school, after all). I'm thinking it might be easier just to tell all of them at the same time somehow, like a mass coming out. I have one class at school that contains a bunch of my close friends, and I'm trying to figure out if there's a way to tell them all in class somehow without making it seem forced (I don't want it to seem like this huge, epic announcement) and without losing my last few pieces of sanity. I don't want to present this as a really big deal (I want them to know I'm still the same person they've known and loved for years and that this hasn't changed anything), but without diminishing its importance. Any suggestions?
Well decide if this is a good thing or not: your friends telling each other I mean. If you're worried about tell them all at once, just tell one or two and let them know this isn't a secret you're trying to hide. Make the gossip for for you for a change. And on a side note, this is a good way to know who you can trust. When I came out to people I was surpirsed by the some of the ones that didn't say a word, and told me: "This is your business, it's not my place to tell people." Like I said make the gossip circle work for you.
Scenario 1: Have a few close friends go into a room with you at school, close the door, turn off the lights, "I'm a lesbian..." in a deep hush tone voice. Then turn the lights on, and have rainbow balloons all over "Surprise!". Scenario 2: "I'm a lesbian, but don't tell anyone okay? I trust you". click phone "Did you know what I heard! Oh my goodness kaybee is a lesbian!". repeat 100x Scenario 3 Get a rainbow banner out, and ride your bike inside of school blowing a whistle. "I have an announcement to make!!!!!! I'm a lesbo!!!! Yay!!!" or go with your idea
Coming out over lunch might be easier than trying to find a natural way to work it into classroom conversations ("So, Marie Curie pioneered radioactive studies? Aren't smart women amazing? By the way, I'm a lesbian."). My high school lunch conversations were pretty relationship-heavy, which would make slightly less awkward transitions pretty realistic. It's not a sure thing, though. When in doubt, I'd say go with scenario 3. At least then you'd get a rainbow banner:icon_wink Congrats on coming out!