Okay, so here's the thing: I know I'm listed as "gay" on this website, but it's really just because that's a very... generalized term for someone who's "not straight". The first thread I posted on this website was about how I should come out to my parents again. When I initially came out to them, I came out as bisexual. I was 13 and dating this girl they were not too fond of, to say the least. In short, I was completely shot down. The whole “coming out to my family” thing has given me absolute hell for the past few years. Well, now I’m dealing with another issue. I’ve been dating this girl for a while now and I’m completely in love with her. I’ve been wondering, though if I’m really completely gay. I’ve dated both guys and girls and I’ve had sex with both sexes as well. My last relationship (which lasted about a year) was with a guy. By the 6th month, however, I was kind of repulsed by him. I wouldn’t let him touch me or kiss me or hold me… I couldn’t really say I loved him at that point either. Things got worse and worse as time went on and I didn’t end it sooner because I was afraid of making the wrong choice. Anyway, upon reflecting on my past relationships, I realized that every guy I’ve dated, I’ve dumped out of repulsion. I can have sex with a guy, sure, but I’ll feel gross immediately afterward. That’s never happened with a girl… Every girl I‘ve dated, I’ve fallen head over heels for. What does this mean exactly? Am I completely gay? :confused2:
I'd say if you feel gross after sex with guys, and you feel repulsed by them, yes, you're pretty well gay. =P
It's a question only you can answer for yourself. Judging by the fact that you dumped every guy you dated out of repulsion, you may be lesbian. However, think for a minute; what about them repulsed you? Was it their habits? Their personality? Those things have nothing to do with sexuality. If you dumped them because you do not find the male body attractive, then you may be lesbian. Here's the thing: my opinion on sexuality is that we as human beings can fall in love with anyone, regardless of gender; sexuality only dictates which sexes we find attractive; i.e. which one(s) we want to have sex with, rather than which one(s) we want to get romantic with. If you have never genuinely been attracted to a man, you are probably a lesbian. I don't know who said it before me, but I claim no credit for this EC proverb: the proof is in the porn. When you have sexual fantasies or indulge in sexual material, which gender(s) really turn(s) you on? I'm not asking expecting an answer; it's just food for thought. Which ever sex(es) you focus on when you masturbate is/are probably the one(s) that you are attracted to.
It sounds to me like you're pretty much...erm...what's the word...GAY. It is possible that you could still find guys attractive in some ways, like personality, or certain features physically and emotionally, I think most people are like that..but, it doesn't mean that you're going to be able to fall in love with them because of those things.
I have always been of the opinion that human beings are generally bisexual, most falling at the end of the scale (gay or straight), few falling at the extreme end (exclusive gay or exclusive straight), few in the middle (bisexual). Thus, generally no one is cent percent gay or straight. Now upto what extent a person is inclined towards the member of the same sex, compared with that of the opposite is something the person is supposed to find out.
Well, you might be gay, or you might just not have found any men who push the right buttons. I know a straight girl who is repulsed by most men, but likes more gender-ambiguous men. Your issue might be something else. or, you might just be flatout 100% gay.
U could be 100% gay or you havent found that guy yet that make u feel all tingly ect ! I actually have the same problem but without the sex.
