About two months ago a close friend and I were chatting on the internet and he asked if I ever jerked off. I told him yeah (DUH) and he said he did too. Then he started talking about more in depth stuff...like when I jerked off, did I watch porn, etc. Id dint think anything about, but then every time we talked on the internet he wanted to talk about it over and over again. BTW...at this time he didnt know I was gay. Also, he supposedly has this major crush on one of my girl friends. He acts all obsessed with her. He has tried to have other girlfriends but becomes obsessed with them like he has to have a girlfriend to live. I think that is a little silly. A couple of weeks ago I tried to change the subject and talk about something else...bad mistake. I asked what his deepest secret was....To make a long story short, I told him that I was gay and then he told me he had jerked off a guy and a guy had jerked him too. He then started asking if I would suck a guy. Anyway, the conversation hasnt stopped since then and he keeps asking more questions like that. Do you think he is gay?
You have to remember that the whole world is not broken up into gay and straight. Most people exist somewhere along a spectrum. Not everything needs a label. If you want to find out more about his sexuality, just ask the same questions of him that he is asking of you. For example: Him: Would you ever suck off a guy? You: <your answer>, what about you?
Is this someone you know in real life? Or do you know him only through the internet? It certainly would seem that he is preoccupied with sex - at least when he's chatting on the internet. That doesn't make him gay necessarily. I'm guessing that you're in your mid teens, so I think it might be natural for him to 'experiment' with another guy, and to wonder what other guys think of that - so he's telling you. You gave him a great opportunity to come out to you - when you told him you were gay. But he didn't. So for now you'll have to assume he isn't.
maybe he masterbates quite alot and for any reason. and want to see if otheres do the same but finds it akward to talk about it face to face
If this is someone you know in real life, then I suspect he's coming to terms with his own attraction to men, and a safe way for him to do that is to discuss masturbation with you. You also haven't mentioned how old he is, or what the age difference is with you, and that's an important factor as well. If you have not met him in person, it is likely he is not who he says he is. In either case, when the conversation is too much focused on sex, particularly if it creeps you out or you get the feeling that maybe he's asking you questions that are arousing to him, perhaps you should back off a little bit. Now... if he's around the same age you are, and you know him in real life and are attracted to him and wouldn't mind experimenting with him (and feel safe doing so) then it might be worth exploring that possibility as it seems he's sort of hinting at that. But if you haven't met him in person, and/or there's a significant age difference, particularly if you are under 18, I would probably be inclined to pull away.
I sure as hell know I did stuff like that all the time in high school... usually in a more secretive way and not generally (but sometimes) with people i know. Chances are if he isnt gay, he's at least curious. But i "experimented" with other guys in high school who turned out to be straight (and it was only like 2 guys, i ain't no slut. lol)
Well he is the same age as me and I know him very well....we have been friends for ever...i wouldn't mind experimenting with him....i do know that he is definitely into masturbation from what he tells me....I guess i'll have to see where it goes...thanks for your help...ill let you know where it goes
