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Just told my best friend (opposite sex) I had feelings for them.. WTF?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by lolz, Dec 1, 2009.

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  1. lolz

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    For some strange reason, I told one of my best friends, who is a girl, that I have feelings for her. I dont know why I did it. I guess I "Liked" her, but wasn't attracted to her physically/sexually at all. I guess I just wanted to know how it would make me feel, and i felt nothing? does that make sense?? Luckily, she likes someone else, so that is as far as it went. will someone please explain to me what this means?? :/
     
    #1 lolz, Dec 1, 2009
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    It makes sense to me really lol. Sometimes you just gotta test those waters. Hell I dated 8 girls up till grade 11, and then by then I knew I was gay but dated one last one just to see lol...and yup....nothing.
     
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    ^ haha yea thanks. I still have no idea why i did it. I plan on coming out to her within the year so it will be funny talking about this..

    and can a mod move to support/advice please? thanks
     
    #3 lolz, Dec 2, 2009
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    I dated one girl, who kinda resemble Amy Lee (this was in 2006)

    She was my first girl and last... she broke up with me because I guess I didn't went far enough with her (said it wasn't the right time). Then she started crying when I left her, so she left me really confuse. I didn't feel anything though overall....
     
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    I dated a girl once in college, (though I was still desperately trying to believe I was straight at the time...)
    And like you said, I guess I liked her, in a fashion. But I never held her hand, never tried (or really wanted) to kiss her. And I'm known for being pretty physically affectionate.
    Of course, afterwards, when I dated a guy, the debate of "to kiss or not to kiss" was very quickly a non-issue, ha. Figures.

    It's confusing. Because there are suggestions of *some* type of feelings, and (if you've been raised that homosexuality is wrong) you still find yourself wondering if those are the feelings you should be having...
     
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    thanks for all the replies guys :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: When I dated someone (girl) a while back, she broke up with me because I didnt go "to far" haha. (oh and the whole to kiss a guy thing isnt a debate) I frequently want to pounce on guys i like in the hall hahaha
     
    #6 lolz, Dec 3, 2009
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