My mom, who im youve herd of a lot by now, saw this site one time when i accidentally forgot to lock the computer when i had to do chores, i normally lock the computer when i have GLBT sites open to avoid her seeing them. When i was finished we both came into my room at the same time, except she had laundry for me to fold and my hands were empty. lol But anyway she saw the site but didn't say anything at first. I tried to play it off and said "Do you know anything about this site found it in a pop up" (The thought of her knowing im gay scares me.) She said, "No, just don't go to these sites" (So i'm guessing she knows what kind of site this is.) It kinda affended me that she said stay away from these sites but she could've just been saying that cause this is a socialising site, as well as supportive thumbsup. But anyway, after that she paused for a sec then walked out the door. Do you guys think she might know, should i tell her now (and if so, HOW!?) Thanks
I think you should tell her. I mean, she's going to find out sometime. How? You ask...well... I would do it simply. "Mom, I need to talk to you. You know that site you found? Well, I am on it. The truth is, I'm gay. I know it's not something you don't want to hear, but I can't change anything about me." Hope it goes well, if you do come out.
Hi there! It is possible that she suspects something but even without having seen EC open or thinking about other sites, you mum would have suspected something sooner or later. Moms are pretty good in guessing these kinds of things! Before coming out, ask yourself, "am I ready to come out to my mum?" Stand in front of a mirror and ask yourself this out loud. If the answer is yes, and you feel okay and ready to do it, then try coming out to her. As mydogstewie mentioned, try to keep it simple. Try to think about a good time, maybe when she is not busy or preoccupied with other things. But honestly, I wouldn't worry too much about it at this point. She thought for a second about something but that doesn't mean that you have to come out to her. Give it a few days and think about as to whether you are ready to come out to her. There is never a rush in coming out. The most important thing here is that you feel ready and think it is the right time to come out to her.
Honey, at least it wasn't porn. Mom finding that on your open computer- that's bad for you if you're gay OR straight! LOL! But I think she'd be happy EC isn't one of those looking for sex/hook-up sites. You're gay and you're going to positive thinking places and that's something to be proud of. You recognize yourself as gay and you're being mature and responsible about it. That's great and I think (if you decide to tell your mom) your mom would appreciate it.
Unfortunately, I think my mom knows thrugh that situation, haha! So much for remembering to lock my doors. But yes. I'm in a similar situation where my mom has walked in on me while being on an inappropriate site and I'm positive she saw as she now seems to show signs of it. My mother tells me to stay off naughty sites and she's cautious about using my laptop and also that she asks what I am doing in my room in a weird way. I don't know what to tell you to do about that, but I'm pretty sure your mother also knows. Mother's/Woman's Intuition too.
Don't come out to her unless you're ready. I wouldn't worry about her bringing it up, because she seemed to end the topic and any discussion of it when she just said not to go to sites like this, and walked away. But if she happens to confront you, you would know better than we would about what kind of reaction she'll throw your way, and if she's gonna make your life hell over it...
