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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by WaterGuy121, Dec 19, 2009.

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  1. WaterGuy121

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    So, "somebody" recommended that i should come out to my teacher, cuz i thought he was gay

    i had lots of reasons to think it

    so, i thought about wat he sayd and was thinkin of doin it monday

    but, i talked to my friend today that i kno in real life, and sayd, "Do you think Mr.T is gay?"

    she sayd, "Lol no, he has a girlfriend"

    so that didnt make me soooo cheerful

    do u ppl think i should still come out to him, or wat should i do next?
     
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    Hi there! If you want you could still come out to him. I don't think it matters if he is gay or not. Usually teachers (at least in public schools) are pretty accepting and supportive as they are fulfilling various aspects of a counselor's role.

    Having a teacher with whom you can talk to and confide in, could help you in case you need to talk to someone or just would like to have some suggestions. Teachers can be an integral part of your support network.

    If you trust the teacher and think it would be a good idea to come out to him, try it on Monday.

    Hope this helps a bit.
     
    #2 Mirko, Dec 19, 2009
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    Do you go to a religious school? If so, be careful, you might not get a very helpful response.
     
    #3 Pseudojim, Dec 19, 2009
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    nope, just a regular public school lolz
     
    #4 WaterGuy121, Dec 19, 2009
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    If you feel like you can trust the teacher,I say go for it...and jsut curious,is the teacher metro-sexual?
     
    #5 TroubledRyan, Dec 19, 2009
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    yeah, the teacher is VERY metro-sexual
     
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    Ahh.... We all just love those metro-sexual people far too much...
    God knows how many crushes I've had on them, simply because I misread things easily.

    If you trust the teacher, then go ahead, by all means come out to him and ask for advice or whatever. Just be aware it may cause backlash or something further down the line if they aren't acceptive / understanding of your sexuality.
     
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    As has been said, it comes down to trust. Whether the teacher himself is gay or not, the question is - do you trust the teacher in question? If you do, then talk to him and see what he says. Metrosexuals are usually pretty cool about someone coming out, so try and decide what your trust level is and then go from there.

    Good luck!
     
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    im not sure if i trust him, but me and my friends have come to the conclusion that he's gay BUT he's in the closet lol
     
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    If you were comfortable enough to come out to this teacher, chances are it wasn't JUST because you thought he was gay. He probably also seems like a pretty understanding, nice person who you could talk to and get some advice from, and he is probably someone you trust. I would suggest thinking about if this is true, and if it is, I would say still do it. Don't worry about the fact that he isn't gay, just if you trust him or not to be able to help you deal with this.
     
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    Most likely hes not in the closet if he has a gf. lol Its possible but not exactly reasonable. Well if you decide hes trustworthy, then i say tell him. Goodluck!! :slight_smile:
     
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    i think he's trustworthy, but i dont feel "brave" enough to tell him
     
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    This isnt something that you should feel you have to do, only do it if it feels right. I think you should go with your gut. Its ok if youre not brave enough though. :slight_smile:
     
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    and when would i tell him tho? not during the day, w/ all the kids around...
     
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    Well yeah you probably wouldnt wanna tell him during class. lol Umm how bout after class or you can go to class early that day and tell him. I would suggest after class though, so he has the rest of the day to let it sink in.
     
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    idk we dont usually have much time after class, always hurrying to the next class. But, he stands by the door at the end of day, and i always walk by him before i leave school...maybe that would work? know wat i mean?
     
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    Well, I'm going to ask: What do you expect to get from telling him?

    I'm getting the vibe you have a crush on him and you hope he's gay too.
     
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    yeah, i sorta do, but that would just be "an added bonus" if he was gay too

    the real reason is, i dont have any adults in real life that i can talk to about stuff like that, and he seems like a person i might wanna tell...of course, that was cuz i origanally thought he was gay too, so if he was, then he'd have a better understanding...but idk now :icon_sad:
     
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    Well i dont think this crush will evolve, even if hes gay, so i hope you know that.

    As for telling him, I think you could. Just wait till everyone leaves and ask if he has time to talk privately. And most teachers are very understanding and you trust him, so i think he would understand.
     
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    yeah obviously i kno, lol

    anyways i'm thinking of doing it after school and making my friend come with me (for back-up lol) and so i won't be as nervous

    good idea?
     
    #20 WaterGuy121, Dec 20, 2009
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