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Hi there! When a lot of people (friends in particular) don't like your true self then maybe you have to re-examine some of the things you do and say. Yes, by all mans be yourself but you also need to think about others' feelings and reactions. Maybe if you provide an example, I/we could give you a more concrete suggestion as to what you might need to change so that when you are being yourself, your friends/others will still like you.

 

If you think about peoples' feelings before you say things that's already good. Apply that same to before you do things/stuff. Always ask yourself, 'how would I feel if a friend of mine would do the same to me or if I would be present." Generally, if you can put yourself in the shoes of your friends before you do things and give it some thought, you will learn as to whether it is such a good idea to do what you are about to do.

You know your friends/people with whom you hang out. You know the people around you and presumably have some insights as to what makes them tick and what makes them uncomfortable or how they might react to certain things. You have already lots of information to go on. Use that information before you do something, and ask yourself: "knowing my friend/family member, if I do this, will I make him/her feel upset or angry at me?"

 

I think you have identified your problem that you could and probably should work on.

Sarcasm can be great at times, but if you overdo it, or if people are easily offended by it, then it would be good if you would use less sarcasm. It goes back to you knowing your friends and the people you are around or hang out with. You do have to modify what and how you say things when talking with different people. If 75% of what you say is sarcasm, people might not only be offended more easily but they might also stop taking you seriously down the road.

Try to work on that and also on the skill of being able to put yourself in the shoes of others. If you can do that, you will understand from where others are coming from.

But sometimes you have to. In that, sometimes you have change some of the things about yourself, in particular if they are things that annoy others or will lead others to distance themselves from you. Not only need to change or adapt to a bf or gf, but you also need to adapt to your friends reactions and feelings. Not doing so, you might find yourself isolated. Friendships are two way streets, where you need to respect and adapt.

 

Because if one overdoes things, it can become a trunoff very quickly. As with any 'new things' having some sarcasm in a conversation might be fun and a new way of looking at things for the first little while, but if it is done constantly, it will become a turn off, very quickly.

 

But that's the problem. How is your friend supposed to take you seriously after a while? Stop being sarcastic for a while, and try to respect your friends and try to adapt a bit to their needs and feelings. And this is the magic of friendship. If you can do that, the chances of your friendships surviving for some time to come, are a lot higher.