Virginity

i recommend being careful if you want it to be more special and you're not sure he likes you. it's very common to fall hard for the person you lose your virginity to, and if he doesn't like you the way you want him to, it really hurts.

it's completely up to you though, i don't personally believe that virginity is something that's super special (it can be cute, but it wouldn't attract or ward me off), but that's just me.

and if you want it to be something special, don't lose it just to lose it because that's sorta the opposite of special.

 

Ya,I agree with paco,if you truely want it special,you should save it with sumone special,sumone that you have strong feels for.

think with your brian,nd not your head,if you want somthing special

 

Jaded queen checking in here =]

Rarely is there Mister Perfect. There's Mister OkayWhyNot.

I was lucky to have my firsts (m/f) with someone who was a good friend.

But I have always held one truth: you first is someone you fuck and forget. Now, don't get me wrong, I had intentions of being with each forever - foolish, I know.

In the end, don't sleep with someone in hopes he will love you - you're likely to get hurt.

Being and advertising you being a virgin will draw a lot of people out of the wood-works. They will promise you love and happiness - whatever it takes - to get into your pants.

My suggestion would be to keep it to yourself until a relationship develops - if a relationship is for what you're looking. Then, as it becomes more intimate you two can discuss coital specifics.

 

I think your first time is something special. My first time was with a close friend, and there was some sort of emotional connection, but I know it wasn't as special as it could have been with someone I really feel a bond with.

That said, I still don't regret what I did, it was fun and I really enjoyed experiencing that next level of intimacy with someone. It is very difficult to keep from developing a emotional attachment with that person, and if that isn't a feeling they are likely to return it can be very hard on you.

If you do decide to loose your virginity with this person, have fun and enjoy yourself! Most importantly though, be safe!

 

Ok, to me, it sounds like you don't really like that guy, but you're just really horny. If that's the case, I am going to suggest you wait. I don't believe you should have sex with someone you don't really like and that doesn't like you. Sex isn't going to make him like you, nor is it going to make you like him...all it's going to do is possibly make you both like having sex with one another. I may be traditional in this regard, but I think sex is special and is something you should only do with people who you really care about.

Just my two cents though!

 

I think you should wait, not because losing virginity is such a big deal but because you seem not to like him that much and i think you are not pretty sure of what to do, and it is you who should be convinced that you want to do it. Anyways, first time kinda sucks, but it gets a lot better!! And of course, use a condom!

 

this. if you have to push or make yourself do it, i would wait. it shouldn't feel like something you have to do.

my advice would be that if you want it special, wait until you love the person.

 

i agree with all the guys said, as they adviced you; wait for it, (only if you value ur virginity with some one special) honestly i think; this special feeling is just temperory feeling and it will fade away with time.. mayb your saying this because you didn't expericence enough and wanna remeber a special moment, but honestly from my experience.. i found out that i met assholes lol and i totally forgot about it.. when do you remeber your virginity lost is when u do it with an exteremly hot guy/girl something like a porn start celebrity hehe; otherwise if its just your normal fit gym dude.. its kinda normal since you will meet alot of his kind

 

I'm just curious as to what you actaully plan on doing, and what constitutes sex to you. People have varying opinions on the subject and there are questions that need to be asked before you have sex. Make sure your not biting off more than you can chew and don't think you have to run the full gambit of sexual exploration the first time. Take it slow and steady and be carefull, one thing that pisses me off is when people don't speak up if something does'nt feel good(There's tons of ways this can happen). Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, so you need to communicate. Judging from the fact that you appear to wave your "V" flag high I'm assuming he knows that you're a virgin. Make sure he understands that if you say stop(for whatever reason) it means STOP.

 

Well, I agree with you that there isn't a Mr. Perfect. The perfect guy on the perfect moment to have the perfect first time with is probably something that never happens in reality.

However, there is something like a Mr. Right. Someone you like, who likes you back, and who you have chemistry with. He might not be the one you stay with forever, but if you know each other well enough, having sex might be hot and fun and something to keep a good memory of.

However, this guy doesn't sound like Mr. Right either. If he's only interested in you when you look for him, and you secretly hope that sex wil make him love you for a while, you're looking at pretty high odds of being disappointed.

When you say your relationship is only sexual, but you haven't done anything since Halloween, do you mean you didn't spend any time together at all in between? That makes me think even more that this isn't the best of ideas. I'm hardly all-knowing on matters of sex, but I do think that knowing how to make the other guy feel good is very important. If the other guy is just rushing in for the sex, it might be that you end up using the other guy to get off without knowing what you each like. Which might not be the best way of making it hot.

So I'd say: don't do it now. If you have real doubts like these, it's definitely a sign it isn't the right time. You're expecting hot sex and possible romantic feeling developing from this, while I don't really see a high chance of it happening from what you tell of this guy. There probably will be other and better times to do this.

P.S. And definitely don't aim for losing your virginity as a career move or to get something from other people. That way you're sure to end up feeling used and unhappy in the end!

 

i want a virgin why because virgins appriechiate relationships more then non virgins (not slways) and plus some one who is not a virgin might well ehhh i dunno how to say it

 

my view is that if you have to debate whether you're ready, you're not ready. While the first time isn't all that great (mine was a bit awkward and painful) it's still a big thing and a major milestone, and not something you want to experience with someone you don't trust completely or who will laugh at you or disrespect you. I would wait if I was you.

 

I agree with kettleofish. If you have to ask, and particularly if you are pushing yourself to it, then it will not be an experience you'll enjoy if you just do it for the sake of doing it. Anecdotes shared here and elsewhere confirm that.

 

if you waited for the perfect person then yes, it could be another couple of years but if you loved the guy then it would be a much more enjoyable experience than having casual sex with this guy but if you really can't wait for a couple of years (or it could be a matter of days) then see where the night leads you and whatever happens will happen, just dont do anything you could regret later just for a quickie (which might not be so quick)

it might also be a good idea to find out exactly how much he likes you and in what way he likes you before you decide what happens.

 

I think you should wait. Don't do it with anyone just because you want to have sex. It sounds like you are pushing yourself too hard to do this for it to really be the right time. I did the same thing and while I don't necessarily regret the choice I made (I try not to regret anything I've done because it's helped me to become who I am and I like who I am today), I don't think it was necesarily a good choice either. Let your first time be special, even if it isn't Mr. Perfect. Make sure it is with someone who cares for and respects you. It really makes all the difference in the world.